http://www.bangaloremirror.com/article/1/201012232010122307550885181cf4f53/Corporates-run-for-cover-against-‘prowomen’-Bill.html
Corporates run for cover against ‘pro-women’ Bill
Men feel it is loaded against them as even the RTI Act cannot be used to seek information on false allegations and misuse. Also, punishment for false complaint is not ‘mandatory but discretionary’. Meanwhile, companies scurry to insure themselves against harassment complaints
The Protection of Women Against Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill 2010 is yet to become a law. But corporate houses in Bangalore are already running scared of it.
Women are indispensable at workplace, say corporates. Neither can they be segregated from male colleagues
Explaining the apprehension of the corporates, HR consultant Ashwin Sundar told Bangalore Mirror, “Companies fear that they will have to change the way they operate if such a law comes into force. So, they are securing themselves financially by taking out insurance cover against complaints of sexual harassment.”
A consultant of Marsh India Insurance Brokers said, “Almost every listed IT company in Bangalore has an Employment Practices Liability Insurance (EPLI) cover. EPLI also covers claims on sexual harassment. There has been a recent spurt in enquiries on EPLI. Once the new law is in place, it will increase awareness about this stand-alone insurance policy.
However, the limits of this insurance policy can only be gauged after the law comes into force, and claims are made.”
As of now, the average liability limit of an EPLI ranges between Rs 10 crore and Rs 15 crore, and the highest known is of Rs 50 crore. The insurance covers companies, their directors, officers and employees against complaints of wrongful act.
Wrongful act includes harassment, sexual or otherwise, and discrimination on the basis of gender, race or creed. Policy words may vary from company to company, and not all insurance companies offer the EPLI, another Marsh India consultant said.
PREMIUM NOT UNIFORM
Though there is a spurt in the demand for EPLI, insurance providers do not have specific premia. Even in the case of two companies opting for a similar liability limit the premium each will be paying might vary. Reason: Many issues are factored, such as the number of employees, their geographical spread and the business of the corporate entity. Firms which have offices and employ people in the West, as well as those which generally employ younger people, will pay a higher premium.
“Such claims are more rampant in the West, and it is perceived that younger people get involved in wrongful acts more,” said the vice-president (marketing) of a private insurance company.
A Marsh India consultant said, “As of now there is no thumb-rule for premium. It is expected that the new law on sexual harassment at workplace would bring in some clarity.”
UNFOUNDED FEARS
Corporate advocate S Mahesh said that there were fears that the new law would hamper the recruitment of women. “Some corporates are scared. From whatever they have gathered from news reports, they feel that the law is too strong for a conducive work atmosphere. There are talks like, Men will lose jobs even if they look at women. The perception out there is many corporates will think twice before hiring women,” he said.
Karnataka High Court advocate Susheela S dismissed the view. “It is a foolish apprehension among some corporate houses. Segregating men and women at workplace or completely ignoring women for jobs is highly impossible. Women are indispensable at work place in this age. Men should not be scared of this law as action can be taken only if harassment is proved,” she said.
MISUSE A POSSIBILITY
“In dowry cases, only married men are falsely accused. Here even unmarried men will suffer the same ordeal,” Kumar Jahgirdar, a city-based social activist for gender neutral laws, said.
“The Union law ministry should first ensure that there are enough fast-track courts to deal with such cases. For the pain undergone in the process of law can be worse than the punishment itself.”
Shiva Kumar, management consultant, Sandilla, said, “As of now, no one has asked us to stop scouting for women employees, though the Bill has led to a lot of discussion in the corporate world. Scenarios of separate wings for men and women cannot be contemplated. Women now are indispensable in the workforce. But there is fear about the misuse of the law.”
Jahgirdar has pretty much the same fears. “Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code is being misused rampantly in dowry-related cases. Husbands and their family members are falsely accused of cruelty. The new law has all the ingredients for similar misuse,” he said.
No right to info
»The Bill is not gender neutral. Those opposing it say that it violates Article 15 of the Constitution which prohibits gender discrimination. They argue that women can commit the same crime of sexual harassment against men
»Special provisions in the Bill (Section 14 and Section 15) says that the RTI Act cannot be used to seek information on false allegations and misuse. Only successful and genuine cases will be opened to the media. False cases will be kept out of public knowledge
»Section 8 (1) of the Bill provides for settlement of the matter between the complainant woman and the respondent through conciliation. It can be done on the woman’s request. But the settlement in other terms could only mean extortion, say naysayers. Monetary payments would lead to abuse as those in the committee would try to make money
»Section 12(1) of the Bill says that if a complaint turns out to be false, it would be left to the committee to recommend action against the woman complainant. This means that punishment for false complaint is not mandatory but discretionary. Members of the committee will include external NGOs, whose sole criterion is to be committed to the cause of the women. So, there may not be any punishment for false complaint
»The term ‘sexual harassment’ itself is not defined in the Bill.
Friday, December 24, 2010
The Husband Store....
The Husband Store....
A store that sells husbands has just opened in New Delhi, where any woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!!!
You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the Building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband…
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking..
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
For all men for a good laugh and to all the women who can handle the truth!
A store that sells husbands has just opened in New Delhi, where any woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!!!
You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the Building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband…
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking..
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
For all men for a good laugh and to all the women who can handle the truth!
The Husband Store....
The Husband Store....
A store that sells husbands has just opened in New Delhi, where any woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!!!
You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the Building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband…
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking..
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
For all men for a good laugh and to all the women who can handle the truth!
A store that sells husbands has just opened in New Delhi, where any woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!!!
You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the Building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband…
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.
The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.
The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking..
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.
She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework.
"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"
Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:
Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.
Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!
For all men for a good laugh and to all the women who can handle the truth!
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
A booming Industry – The Notorious Section 498A
Written By :- Nivedita Choudhuri
http://www.thestatesman.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=336852&catid=39&Itemid=53
It was a mellow evening. I was chatting to a friend I had not seen for ages. He looked a bit disturbed, which was quite unusual for a person who is always full of beans. When I asked him what the matter was, he told me he had read something in the newspaper that morning that had made him uneasy. It was the tragic story of a 71-year-old man who had committed suicide after his daughter-in-law threatened to file police complaints against him and his son under Sec 498A IPC (commonly known as the dowry law).
My friend then told me about another article he had read on the rampant misuse of the dowry law in India. “It makes me wonder if 498A and its related operations should henceforth be referred to as 498A India Ltd,” he mused. “If the government wanted to list 498A India Ltd in any of the stock exchanges today, it would certainly be listed as a Navratna company.”
Asked to clarify, he reeled off statistics he had come across in the story. “Take for instance growth. 498A India Ltd has grown at a faster rate than any industry in India, be it IT or finance. This sector has grown by almost 120 per cent in 12 years and registered phenomenal returns though investment has been practically nil. From just over 28,000 cases in 1995, the number of cases grew to 63,000 in 2007.”
“The company’s organisational activities have touched the lives of almost 10,00,000 people since 1999,” he continued, referring to the hapless men and their parents, siblings and other relatives who have been put behind bars due to the frivolous complaints levelled against them by their wives, daughters-in-law and sisters-in-law. “The average amount needed to apply for bail is Rs 10,000 per person. The revenue generated by the government from the bail amount (simply multiply 10,00,000 by 10,000) would be phenomenal. Add to that the large sums devious wives extract from husbands merely by threatening to lodge Sec 498A against them. It’s a blooming industry.”
I nodded my head as I tried to calculate what the final amount would be, but gave up as there were far too many zeroes for me to handle. “Of course,” added my friend, “the bail amount is to be returned to the persons concerned at the end of the trial. But how many people actually get it back? After doing the rounds of courts to prove their innocence, are they in a fit state to run around once again to reclaim the bail amount? In India, around 30 per cent of bail applications are posted for the 498A accused. 498A India Ltd is a powerful weapon that forces the husband’s family to become the proverbial goose which is then forced to lay golden eggs for all the ‘shareholders’ of the company.”
I was now all ears. The statistics were mindboggling indeed. My friend continued. “The company 498A India Ltd has not changed its product in the last 25 years, but the use of the product has skyrocketed. No tests have been done by the company to study the effects of its products on the people against whom they are applied. The parties using the products get richer by a few crores and the parties on whom the products are used suffer irrespective of age, gender, caste, class or disability.
“The board of directors has total immunity from prosecution and 498A India Ltd prides itself in taking good care of its customers. Now, the products of 498A are so much in demand that more such companies – Domestic Violence Act India Ltd have been started. Looking at 498A India Ltd’s stupendous success, the shareholders – mainly wives – do not want to dilute or modify its products as that will result in diminished returns for the company and its shareholders.”
I was suitably impressed by the economics behind 498A. It was good to know that something was shining in India despite a recession existing elsewhere in the world.
http://www.thestatesman.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=336852&catid=39&Itemid=53
It was a mellow evening. I was chatting to a friend I had not seen for ages. He looked a bit disturbed, which was quite unusual for a person who is always full of beans. When I asked him what the matter was, he told me he had read something in the newspaper that morning that had made him uneasy. It was the tragic story of a 71-year-old man who had committed suicide after his daughter-in-law threatened to file police complaints against him and his son under Sec 498A IPC (commonly known as the dowry law).
My friend then told me about another article he had read on the rampant misuse of the dowry law in India. “It makes me wonder if 498A and its related operations should henceforth be referred to as 498A India Ltd,” he mused. “If the government wanted to list 498A India Ltd in any of the stock exchanges today, it would certainly be listed as a Navratna company.”
Asked to clarify, he reeled off statistics he had come across in the story. “Take for instance growth. 498A India Ltd has grown at a faster rate than any industry in India, be it IT or finance. This sector has grown by almost 120 per cent in 12 years and registered phenomenal returns though investment has been practically nil. From just over 28,000 cases in 1995, the number of cases grew to 63,000 in 2007.”
“The company’s organisational activities have touched the lives of almost 10,00,000 people since 1999,” he continued, referring to the hapless men and their parents, siblings and other relatives who have been put behind bars due to the frivolous complaints levelled against them by their wives, daughters-in-law and sisters-in-law. “The average amount needed to apply for bail is Rs 10,000 per person. The revenue generated by the government from the bail amount (simply multiply 10,00,000 by 10,000) would be phenomenal. Add to that the large sums devious wives extract from husbands merely by threatening to lodge Sec 498A against them. It’s a blooming industry.”
I nodded my head as I tried to calculate what the final amount would be, but gave up as there were far too many zeroes for me to handle. “Of course,” added my friend, “the bail amount is to be returned to the persons concerned at the end of the trial. But how many people actually get it back? After doing the rounds of courts to prove their innocence, are they in a fit state to run around once again to reclaim the bail amount? In India, around 30 per cent of bail applications are posted for the 498A accused. 498A India Ltd is a powerful weapon that forces the husband’s family to become the proverbial goose which is then forced to lay golden eggs for all the ‘shareholders’ of the company.”
I was now all ears. The statistics were mindboggling indeed. My friend continued. “The company 498A India Ltd has not changed its product in the last 25 years, but the use of the product has skyrocketed. No tests have been done by the company to study the effects of its products on the people against whom they are applied. The parties using the products get richer by a few crores and the parties on whom the products are used suffer irrespective of age, gender, caste, class or disability.
“The board of directors has total immunity from prosecution and 498A India Ltd prides itself in taking good care of its customers. Now, the products of 498A are so much in demand that more such companies – Domestic Violence Act India Ltd have been started. Looking at 498A India Ltd’s stupendous success, the shareholders – mainly wives – do not want to dilute or modify its products as that will result in diminished returns for the company and its shareholders.”
I was suitably impressed by the economics behind 498A. It was good to know that something was shining in India despite a recession existing elsewhere in the world.
Dehradun: techie arrested for wife's murder
http://ibnlive.in.com/news/dehradun-man-kills-wife-chops-body-into-pieces/137239-3.html?from=tn
Dehradun: In a gruesome incident, a software engineer allegedly killed his wife, cut the body into pieces and hid it in a deep freezer for nearly two months here, police said.
The incident came to light when brother of the 33-year-old victim Anupama Gulati on Sunday lodged a police complaint after he did not get satisfactorily reply from the engineer about his sister's whereabouts.
Acting on the complaint, police arrested Anupama's husband Rajesh (37), who hailed from Delhi, from his rented accommodation at Prakash Vihar area here on Sunday. During interrogation, he confessed to have murdered his wife on October 17, police said.
According to Dehra Dun SSP G S Martolia, Rajesh banged Anupama's head against a wall following a quarrel after which she fell unconscious. Later, he strangulated her in a fit of rage, cut the body into pieces and stashed them into a deep freezer.
In the meantime, Rajesh told his two twin kids - aged four years - that their mother had gone to Delhi. He also told Anupama's brother Sujan that his relations with her had improved. However, Sujan grew suspicious and came to Dehradun on Sunday to inquire about his sister.
The couple had settled down in Dehradun 18 months ago after returning from the United States.
Dehradun: In a gruesome incident, a software engineer allegedly killed his wife, cut the body into pieces and hid it in a deep freezer for nearly two months here, police said.
The incident came to light when brother of the 33-year-old victim Anupama Gulati on Sunday lodged a police complaint after he did not get satisfactorily reply from the engineer about his sister's whereabouts.
Acting on the complaint, police arrested Anupama's husband Rajesh (37), who hailed from Delhi, from his rented accommodation at Prakash Vihar area here on Sunday. During interrogation, he confessed to have murdered his wife on October 17, police said.
According to Dehra Dun SSP G S Martolia, Rajesh banged Anupama's head against a wall following a quarrel after which she fell unconscious. Later, he strangulated her in a fit of rage, cut the body into pieces and stashed them into a deep freezer.
In the meantime, Rajesh told his two twin kids - aged four years - that their mother had gone to Delhi. He also told Anupama's brother Sujan that his relations with her had improved. However, Sujan grew suspicious and came to Dehradun on Sunday to inquire about his sister.
The couple had settled down in Dehradun 18 months ago after returning from the United States.
Beware of marrying an Indian girl
HONEST, DOWN to earth, religious, very traditional these are the words that describe about 99 per cent of brides to be in matrimonial sites. These conjure an image of the Sati Savitri that the Indian women are in the eyes of any man or prospective groom. The media and the government also support this by projecting an image that the poor Indian women who are suffering from decades of male oppression need a helping hand in marriage.
Think again young men.
What the media or the government does not want you to know about are highlighted below. And these are nothing but the hidden bitter truth behind most Indian marriages .The bitter truth is that the Indian marriage these days reeks of bitter resentment, biased laws against the husband and extortionist wives.
1)Twice the number of Indian married men commit suicide every year as compared to women .The suicides of men are brushed under the carpet as due to financial reasons while that of women are investigated as dowry deaths and additional funds get allocated to fight the fictional dowry menace.
2)More than 126,000 men have been arrested in the last four years alone apart from lakhs of elderly citizens, young bright men and even children in the name of dowry harassment by the Indian Police at the behest of a simple complaint.
3)A simple report is enough to put the entire family of the husband behind bars under the draconian section 498A which has been hailed as the weapon of mass destruction by the modern empowered of India.
4)The Domestic Violence Act 2005, another law considers even talking loudly with the wife an act of violence and the husband and his family can be entangled in a false case under the Domestic Violence Act. Lakhs of husbands and their elderly parents have been thrown out of their own homes under this law, by the wives so that she and her family can occupy it.
5)The extortionist police along with the judiciary are misused by the unscrupulous wife and her family to extort money and torture the families of the husband. The law provides no punishment or deterrent against misusing the senseless laws and that emboldens criminal wives even further.
6)Even if you have not accepted or demanded a single paisa as dowry you can be booked under the anti dowry law. According to the centre for social research , 98 per cent of cases filed under the anti dowry law are filed with ulterior motives and are a great source of income for courts, police and lawyers and families of wives.
7)Young, highly educated and brilliant NRI boys who resist extortion efforts under section 498A have the dreaded Interpol Red Corner notices put up against their names thereby putting them in the same segment as dreaded criminals and international terrorists. This is done by the Indian police to ensure that these people when returning to India to meet their aged parents are arrested and tortured till they give in to the extortionist demands of the wives family.
8) There are no laws whatsoever to protect men in India. Indian men are considered to be the lying in all cases are not believed by the media, the government , the police or the judiciary .The Indian man cannot turn for help anywhere when he is accused falsely with a dowry harassment case or the Domestic violence Act.
Young Indian men living in India and abroad, you have worked really hard to reach where you are today and the country is proud of you for what you have achieved. Think twice before marrying these thousands of "honest, down to earth, religious, truthful “and "god-fearing” girls who are hiding in the innumerable Indian matrimonial sites. These are monsters in disguise and once they sign on the dotted line in a marriage solemnization certificate, will not think twice about misusing the biased and senseless Indian laws to destroy the lives of many a bright young Indian man.
http://www.merinews.com/article/beware-of-marrying-an-indian-girl/15714428.shtml
Think again young men.
What the media or the government does not want you to know about are highlighted below. And these are nothing but the hidden bitter truth behind most Indian marriages .The bitter truth is that the Indian marriage these days reeks of bitter resentment, biased laws against the husband and extortionist wives.
1)Twice the number of Indian married men commit suicide every year as compared to women .The suicides of men are brushed under the carpet as due to financial reasons while that of women are investigated as dowry deaths and additional funds get allocated to fight the fictional dowry menace.
2)More than 126,000 men have been arrested in the last four years alone apart from lakhs of elderly citizens, young bright men and even children in the name of dowry harassment by the Indian Police at the behest of a simple complaint.
3)A simple report is enough to put the entire family of the husband behind bars under the draconian section 498A which has been hailed as the weapon of mass destruction by the modern empowered of India.
4)The Domestic Violence Act 2005, another law considers even talking loudly with the wife an act of violence and the husband and his family can be entangled in a false case under the Domestic Violence Act. Lakhs of husbands and their elderly parents have been thrown out of their own homes under this law, by the wives so that she and her family can occupy it.
5)The extortionist police along with the judiciary are misused by the unscrupulous wife and her family to extort money and torture the families of the husband. The law provides no punishment or deterrent against misusing the senseless laws and that emboldens criminal wives even further.
6)Even if you have not accepted or demanded a single paisa as dowry you can be booked under the anti dowry law. According to the centre for social research , 98 per cent of cases filed under the anti dowry law are filed with ulterior motives and are a great source of income for courts, police and lawyers and families of wives.
7)Young, highly educated and brilliant NRI boys who resist extortion efforts under section 498A have the dreaded Interpol Red Corner notices put up against their names thereby putting them in the same segment as dreaded criminals and international terrorists. This is done by the Indian police to ensure that these people when returning to India to meet their aged parents are arrested and tortured till they give in to the extortionist demands of the wives family.
8) There are no laws whatsoever to protect men in India. Indian men are considered to be the lying in all cases are not believed by the media, the government , the police or the judiciary .The Indian man cannot turn for help anywhere when he is accused falsely with a dowry harassment case or the Domestic violence Act.
Young Indian men living in India and abroad, you have worked really hard to reach where you are today and the country is proud of you for what you have achieved. Think twice before marrying these thousands of "honest, down to earth, religious, truthful “and "god-fearing” girls who are hiding in the innumerable Indian matrimonial sites. These are monsters in disguise and once they sign on the dotted line in a marriage solemnization certificate, will not think twice about misusing the biased and senseless Indian laws to destroy the lives of many a bright young Indian man.
http://www.merinews.com/article/beware-of-marrying-an-indian-girl/15714428.shtml
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
10 Questions for International Men's Day
Dear Readers,
Women get equal education and more privileges than men. Then why are husbands legally forced to carry wives financially?
- If husband ask money from wife it is termed as dowry and has made a crime. Why is it called Alimony and has made a right, if wife does the same?
- Adultery is legal for wives; Why are men jailed for the same act?
- If mother take away kid, courts say kid needs mother. Why are fathers jailed for child abduction if he does the same?
- If women dress like hookers its liberation; If men show any sort of sexual interest why is it called sexual harassment?
- Why are men taxed more than women for the same pay?
- Why are men banned from contesting in panchayat/municipal elections in certain constituencies?
- Why are men denied protection under Domestic Violence Act and Sexual Harassment at workplace Bill?
- Why do crime reports publish full name and adress of the man but change the name if it is women?
- Why do women child and animals have ministries but not one for men?
Some other interesting news that you might have missed
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Woman-hatched-plot-to-kill-in-laws-for-Rs-15-crore-flat/articleshow/6938172.cms
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chandigarh/Men-demand-fair-play/articleshow/5248823.cms
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Cheers! Men too have their day- AIMWA
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Cheers-Men-too-have-their-day/articleshow/5245479.cms
BANGALORE: There are days to celebrate women, children, father, mother and a million other things. Until recently, the idea of raising a toast to men on a particular day was not high on anybody's agenda. That is, until former USSR President Mikhail Gorbachev came up with the idea of celebrating 'being men' in 1999, an idea supported by the UN. Since then, International Men's Day is celebrated on November 19.
The All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) it appears, has a series of grouses to be addressed by society at large: that men have always been portrayed as the tough sex, and so boys are trained to hide their emotions; men are treated as ATMs and 'sperm donors' and are thus exploited, the world persistently asks women what their problems are, but doesn't bother about men....
Ever since Independence, women have been mollycoddled by ministries and commissions, but none have been instituted for poor Adam. Statistics have it that a man commits suicide every nine minutes, double the ratio of women ending their lives, worldwide - which shows that they have reached the end of their tether. It is these issues that AIMWA will address, say men's activists.
Demand father's rights
It also has more serious issues on hand: the taxation disparity and unfavourable custodian rights of fathers. Vivek Deveshwar, counsellor and founder-member of AIWMA, said: "Most fathers are deprived of custody of their children and only mothers get the right. Even after that, mothers feel insecure and snatch visitation rights from men. Where is the justice? There is not even a quasi-constitutional body to hear our problems and protect us."
BANGALORE: There are days to celebrate women, children, father, mother and a million other things. Until recently, the idea of raising a toast to men on a particular day was not high on anybody's agenda. That is, until former USSR President Mikhail Gorbachev came up with the idea of celebrating 'being men' in 1999, an idea supported by the UN. Since then, International Men's Day is celebrated on November 19.
The All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) it appears, has a series of grouses to be addressed by society at large: that men have always been portrayed as the tough sex, and so boys are trained to hide their emotions; men are treated as ATMs and 'sperm donors' and are thus exploited, the world persistently asks women what their problems are, but doesn't bother about men....
Ever since Independence, women have been mollycoddled by ministries and commissions, but none have been instituted for poor Adam. Statistics have it that a man commits suicide every nine minutes, double the ratio of women ending their lives, worldwide - which shows that they have reached the end of their tether. It is these issues that AIMWA will address, say men's activists.
Demand father's rights
It also has more serious issues on hand: the taxation disparity and unfavourable custodian rights of fathers. Vivek Deveshwar, counsellor and founder-member of AIWMA, said: "Most fathers are deprived of custody of their children and only mothers get the right. Even after that, mothers feel insecure and snatch visitation rights from men. Where is the justice? There is not even a quasi-constitutional body to hear our problems and protect us."
Men demand fair play- Save Indian Family Foundation
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chandigarh/Men-demand-fair-play/articleshow/5248823.cms
CHANDIGARH: On the occasion of International Men's Day, Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) and 'Parivar Raksha Samiti', an NGO that provides moral and legal support to men and their families who have suffered partner violence, organised an awareness programme at Press Club, Sector 27, on Thursday.
The NGO members have submitted a list of demands to the PM, the president, and the law ministry. Elaborating on the type of discrimination faced by men, Nitin Gupta, an activist of SIFF, said, "Men pay more taxes than women at the same salary level. There is no protection for them against sexual harassment at workplace. Also, no schemes are being furthered by either government or eminent social celebrities for boys the way these are done for girls. This has led to more boys dropping out of school."
The key areas of concern deliberated upon were – men's welfare, promotion of gender equality, abolishment of biased and in-human laws and modification in maintenance laws. The participants were told about the misuse of anti-dowry laws and other woman protection laws.
CHANDIGARH: On the occasion of International Men's Day, Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) and 'Parivar Raksha Samiti', an NGO that provides moral and legal support to men and their families who have suffered partner violence, organised an awareness programme at Press Club, Sector 27, on Thursday.
The NGO members have submitted a list of demands to the PM, the president, and the law ministry. Elaborating on the type of discrimination faced by men, Nitin Gupta, an activist of SIFF, said, "Men pay more taxes than women at the same salary level. There is no protection for them against sexual harassment at workplace. Also, no schemes are being furthered by either government or eminent social celebrities for boys the way these are done for girls. This has led to more boys dropping out of school."
The key areas of concern deliberated upon were – men's welfare, promotion of gender equality, abolishment of biased and in-human laws and modification in maintenance laws. The participants were told about the misuse of anti-dowry laws and other woman protection laws.
Monday, October 25, 2010
Fate of 498A Woman - Must Read
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/How-to-withdraw-498a-Without-consent-of-husband-26059.asp
I need your help.. I am married to someone for 3 years, in year 2008 I have filled section 498a on my husband and his parents and 2 brothers. Actually i got carried away with my parents and filled this false cases against them. and now i understand my mistake.. and came to know that my parent's are behind my husband's money. I have filled many other cases like DV and CRPC 125 and divorce also with HMA 24. BUT as he has some substantial proofs against me and my parents, i am not getting any money from him. actually he is very adamant kind of person.. he is very rich business men.
When my parents have asked for divorce with some 10 Lakhs rupees.. he replied that i will not give you divorce and make your hair white. so my parents have asked him to take me back in his house... he denied that also.. even after when I realised that i have filled false cases, I have requested him that I know i have filled false cases i apologies for the same, and it's your wish either to take me back or not.. if you want divorce i will not ask you for any kind of money also... but his answer is same......that you will stay alone for you life...
Now after difference with my own parents i am staying alone and working as secretary.. I am feeling very guilty and wants to take back all my cases..
I have lost DV and CRPC 125.. and i am going to take back my divorce also... BUT when I have contacted my lawyer, he said we can't take back section 498a.. as it's criminal case. and charge sheet has been filled by police in 2008 only.
Now being realised what mistake i have made, i don't want him to suffer any more.. either he takes me back or not? is there any way that i can close section 498a ( with 506(2), 323, 294 and 114) Don't know how come police have added all this..
work as secretary in private office. so can't afford much expensive lawyers.
Kindly help me, at least i will not fill guilty that i have unnecessary troubled my husband. there has to be some provision... because of this cases he is facing problems in going to abroad for his business, so i want him to be free as soon as possible.
I need your help.. I am married to someone for 3 years, in year 2008 I have filled section 498a on my husband and his parents and 2 brothers. Actually i got carried away with my parents and filled this false cases against them. and now i understand my mistake.. and came to know that my parent's are behind my husband's money. I have filled many other cases like DV and CRPC 125 and divorce also with HMA 24. BUT as he has some substantial proofs against me and my parents, i am not getting any money from him. actually he is very adamant kind of person.. he is very rich business men.
When my parents have asked for divorce with some 10 Lakhs rupees.. he replied that i will not give you divorce and make your hair white. so my parents have asked him to take me back in his house... he denied that also.. even after when I realised that i have filled false cases, I have requested him that I know i have filled false cases i apologies for the same, and it's your wish either to take me back or not.. if you want divorce i will not ask you for any kind of money also... but his answer is same......that you will stay alone for you life...
Now after difference with my own parents i am staying alone and working as secretary.. I am feeling very guilty and wants to take back all my cases..
I have lost DV and CRPC 125.. and i am going to take back my divorce also... BUT when I have contacted my lawyer, he said we can't take back section 498a.. as it's criminal case. and charge sheet has been filled by police in 2008 only.
Now being realised what mistake i have made, i don't want him to suffer any more.. either he takes me back or not? is there any way that i can close section 498a ( with 506(2), 323, 294 and 114) Don't know how come police have added all this..
work as secretary in private office. so can't afford much expensive lawyers.
Kindly help me, at least i will not fill guilty that i have unnecessary troubled my husband. there has to be some provision... because of this cases he is facing problems in going to abroad for his business, so i want him to be free as soon as possible.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Difference/Similarities between a prostitute and a 498A Indian wife
Here is the difference/similarities between a Indian prostitute and a 498A Indian wife.STILL BOTH ARE VERY DANGEROUS.
Please read Indian wife = false Indian 498A wife.
1. Prostitute can blackmail only an husband not his family.
2. Prostitute “kaam karke khana khati hai”, not like a wife.
3. Prostitute will say “I will take …. money, first”. While wife enter the house
and extort money on the base of 498A.
4. Prostitute has her pimps & underworld contacts , while wife has lots of inlaws support to earn money. Mostly parents are working as a Dalals(PIMPS) of their daughters.
5. If trapped in police with prostitute, then prostitute will not say that
his family members are also involved with him. While Police will arrest our
family member on the base of her toungue twist in 498a case.
6. Prostitute word came from entertainment category , while wife came from divine
category, while false 498A wife came from Indian parliament product.
7. Prostitute taking money on the ground of her beauty, while wife takes money
on 498A (Don’t need to have beauty, intelligence, nothing ………… .)
8. Prostitutes are Prepaid while Wife is postpaid services, which man have to
pay.
9. Prostitute take ONLY money as a profession, while wife take Ijjat, Career,
jewellery, money, bank balance, property on the base of blindly support of
Indian Parliament and woman organisations.
10. Prostitute get hate from society, while 498A wife get symphathy from society
and law system also, depend upto how they marketing.
11. If police arrest prostitute then, police can enjoy benefit from prostitute,
so she will suffer from it. While in 498A complaint police enjoy monetary
benefit from husband family. Real criminal (498A wife) enjoy monetary benefit
with Indian Parliament Support.(Karega koi Bharega koi)
12. Prostitutes are in demand, she will be at another place after a night
willingly, while after having 498A wife is not easily remove from our legal
marriage life. (Divorce case takes lots of time)
13. Prostitute can be a wife, but WIFE CANNOT BE A PROSTITUTE. Stupid thinking
of Indian Law.
14. Prostitutes are subjective to sex, while wife are objective to extract money
and harassment on husband.
15. On the compromise of quarrel, If prostitute and a man trapped then people
will see guilty on prostitute while in 498A marriage, people will advise man to
take care of his wife (after 498A cruelty also)
16. Prostitute never try to sell her childrens, even sometime she came into this
business for survival of childrens FUTURE also. While wife put childrens in
mental and social and career trouble.
17. May be prostitute convert into good life living, while wife convert into
worst life living after 498A due to having their ego problem.
18. Prostitute can earn lots of money after having work with lots of people,
while wife can try earn lots of money after having 1-2 marriages with 498A tool.
BOTH PROSTITUTE AND WIFE CAN FILE DV LAW. because both are sexual partners.
Please read Indian wife = false Indian 498A wife.
1. Prostitute can blackmail only an husband not his family.
2. Prostitute “kaam karke khana khati hai”, not like a wife.
3. Prostitute will say “I will take …. money, first”. While wife enter the house
and extort money on the base of 498A.
4. Prostitute has her pimps & underworld contacts , while wife has lots of inlaws support to earn money. Mostly parents are working as a Dalals(PIMPS) of their daughters.
5. If trapped in police with prostitute, then prostitute will not say that
his family members are also involved with him. While Police will arrest our
family member on the base of her toungue twist in 498a case.
6. Prostitute word came from entertainment category , while wife came from divine
category, while false 498A wife came from Indian parliament product.
7. Prostitute taking money on the ground of her beauty, while wife takes money
on 498A (Don’t need to have beauty, intelligence, nothing ………… .)
8. Prostitutes are Prepaid while Wife is postpaid services, which man have to
pay.
9. Prostitute take ONLY money as a profession, while wife take Ijjat, Career,
jewellery, money, bank balance, property on the base of blindly support of
Indian Parliament and woman organisations.
10. Prostitute get hate from society, while 498A wife get symphathy from society
and law system also, depend upto how they marketing.
11. If police arrest prostitute then, police can enjoy benefit from prostitute,
so she will suffer from it. While in 498A complaint police enjoy monetary
benefit from husband family. Real criminal (498A wife) enjoy monetary benefit
with Indian Parliament Support.(Karega koi Bharega koi)
12. Prostitutes are in demand, she will be at another place after a night
willingly, while after having 498A wife is not easily remove from our legal
marriage life. (Divorce case takes lots of time)
13. Prostitute can be a wife, but WIFE CANNOT BE A PROSTITUTE. Stupid thinking
of Indian Law.
14. Prostitutes are subjective to sex, while wife are objective to extract money
and harassment on husband.
15. On the compromise of quarrel, If prostitute and a man trapped then people
will see guilty on prostitute while in 498A marriage, people will advise man to
take care of his wife (after 498A cruelty also)
16. Prostitute never try to sell her childrens, even sometime she came into this
business for survival of childrens FUTURE also. While wife put childrens in
mental and social and career trouble.
17. May be prostitute convert into good life living, while wife convert into
worst life living after 498A due to having their ego problem.
18. Prostitute can earn lots of money after having work with lots of people,
while wife can try earn lots of money after having 1-2 marriages with 498A tool.
BOTH PROSTITUTE AND WIFE CAN FILE DV LAW. because both are sexual partners.
Monday, September 27, 2010
We men too have hearts in the right place- The Hindu
We men too have hearts in the right place
PRATYUSH RAMAN
http://www.hindu.com/op/2010/09/26/stories/2010092656491600.htm
The August 29 issue of Open Page had five articles pertaining to feminism in one way or the other.
This article is not meant to deny the existence of important issues but looking at the same thing from the perspectives of different authors, again and again, is unfortunate. Cheesy headings, cheesier artworks and photographs, and comments coming from some of these essays are nothing short of an insult to an honest and sincere man.
It is also not uncommon to refer to men as a community totally separate from the human race and to present open biases against them.
In marriage, the freedom of the bride is often talked about. Agreed, some women have a hard time in their marriages, but here is some food for thought — can a man really be happy making someone suffer, especially his wife? Does a man not suffer if his marriage is not successful? It is extraordinary how it is presented as a woman-only problem whereas bad marriage, in reality, is a problem for both man and woman, and the loss, more than physical or monetary, is emotional. The result is that the issue can hardly be solved by law because law does not ‘know,' it ‘judges' and emotions can be hard things to ‘judge.'
A good relationship cannot be maintained at gunpoint, but by good counselling, understanding and communication. Decisions on freedom of woman (or man) or, in fact, anything that affects both lives, should be taken jointly. Some of these decisions are rather difficult, but unfortunately any external force is likely to make it worse.
It is often mentioned that women have a harder time at office. Promotions, perks and even salaries are lower for them. This problem is shown statistically, so let us answer it statistically. Surveys have shown that women don't demand as much as their male peers and for those who do, well, what to say? We have CEOs, we have leaders who are women; and, as far as male ego goes, a man won't like to be beaten by a woman. Accepted. He won't like to get beaten by a gentleman either.
Prejudice. A word used a lot in the context we are talking about. Parents' prejudice, peer prejudice, classmates' prejudice against a teacher's pet and what not. “I want to do a job, but my parents want me to marry after college and they want my brother to be an engineer in a good company. Why such prejudice?” asks a friend. I ask her if she can see her brother marrying instead of doing a job. She looks complaining but amused at the same time. If a woman is denied job over marriage, a man is denied marriage over job. If one says that a man won't want that, it is just an example of prejudice I am talking about. The tension, the bad times, and the social stigma — everything is very much real, but they exist, and they exist for everyone. I am a man of little importance, except to my parents and friends. Yet, I am a man who respects both man and woman and disrespects anyone who disgraces someone's sanctity and self-pride.
It is my appeal to all feminist authors to know that there are men having hearts in their right place, and hence it is a request to them to be more sensitive in what they are writing.
PRATYUSH RAMAN
http://www.hindu.com/op/2010/09/26/stories/2010092656491600.htm
The August 29 issue of Open Page had five articles pertaining to feminism in one way or the other.
This article is not meant to deny the existence of important issues but looking at the same thing from the perspectives of different authors, again and again, is unfortunate. Cheesy headings, cheesier artworks and photographs, and comments coming from some of these essays are nothing short of an insult to an honest and sincere man.
It is also not uncommon to refer to men as a community totally separate from the human race and to present open biases against them.
In marriage, the freedom of the bride is often talked about. Agreed, some women have a hard time in their marriages, but here is some food for thought — can a man really be happy making someone suffer, especially his wife? Does a man not suffer if his marriage is not successful? It is extraordinary how it is presented as a woman-only problem whereas bad marriage, in reality, is a problem for both man and woman, and the loss, more than physical or monetary, is emotional. The result is that the issue can hardly be solved by law because law does not ‘know,' it ‘judges' and emotions can be hard things to ‘judge.'
A good relationship cannot be maintained at gunpoint, but by good counselling, understanding and communication. Decisions on freedom of woman (or man) or, in fact, anything that affects both lives, should be taken jointly. Some of these decisions are rather difficult, but unfortunately any external force is likely to make it worse.
It is often mentioned that women have a harder time at office. Promotions, perks and even salaries are lower for them. This problem is shown statistically, so let us answer it statistically. Surveys have shown that women don't demand as much as their male peers and for those who do, well, what to say? We have CEOs, we have leaders who are women; and, as far as male ego goes, a man won't like to be beaten by a woman. Accepted. He won't like to get beaten by a gentleman either.
Prejudice. A word used a lot in the context we are talking about. Parents' prejudice, peer prejudice, classmates' prejudice against a teacher's pet and what not. “I want to do a job, but my parents want me to marry after college and they want my brother to be an engineer in a good company. Why such prejudice?” asks a friend. I ask her if she can see her brother marrying instead of doing a job. She looks complaining but amused at the same time. If a woman is denied job over marriage, a man is denied marriage over job. If one says that a man won't want that, it is just an example of prejudice I am talking about. The tension, the bad times, and the social stigma — everything is very much real, but they exist, and they exist for everyone. I am a man of little importance, except to my parents and friends. Yet, I am a man who respects both man and woman and disrespects anyone who disgraces someone's sanctity and self-pride.
It is my appeal to all feminist authors to know that there are men having hearts in their right place, and hence it is a request to them to be more sensitive in what they are writing.
We men too have hearts in the right place- The Hindu
We men too have hearts in the right place
PRATYUSH RAMAN
http://www.hindu.com/op/2010/09/26/stories/2010092656491600.htm
The August 29 issue of Open Page had five articles pertaining to feminism in one way or the other.
This article is not meant to deny the existence of important issues but looking at the same thing from the perspectives of different authors, again and again, is unfortunate. Cheesy headings, cheesier artworks and photographs, and comments coming from some of these essays are nothing short of an insult to an honest and sincere man.
It is also not uncommon to refer to men as a community totally separate from the human race and to present open biases against them.
In marriage, the freedom of the bride is often talked about. Agreed, some women have a hard time in their marriages, but here is some food for thought — can a man really be happy making someone suffer, especially his wife? Does a man not suffer if his marriage is not successful? It is extraordinary how it is presented as a woman-only problem whereas bad marriage, in reality, is a problem for both man and woman, and the loss, more than physical or monetary, is emotional. The result is that the issue can hardly be solved by law because law does not ‘know,' it ‘judges' and emotions can be hard things to ‘judge.'
A good relationship cannot be maintained at gunpoint, but by good counselling, understanding and communication. Decisions on freedom of woman (or man) or, in fact, anything that affects both lives, should be taken jointly. Some of these decisions are rather difficult, but unfortunately any external force is likely to make it worse.
It is often mentioned that women have a harder time at office. Promotions, perks and even salaries are lower for them. This problem is shown statistically, so let us answer it statistically. Surveys have shown that women don't demand as much as their male peers and for those who do, well, what to say? We have CEOs, we have leaders who are women; and, as far as male ego goes, a man won't like to be beaten by a woman. Accepted. He won't like to get beaten by a gentleman either.
Prejudice. A word used a lot in the context we are talking about. Parents' prejudice, peer prejudice, classmates' prejudice against a teacher's pet and what not. “I want to do a job, but my parents want me to marry after college and they want my brother to be an engineer in a good company. Why such prejudice?” asks a friend. I ask her if she can see her brother marrying instead of doing a job. She looks complaining but amused at the same time. If a woman is denied job over marriage, a man is denied marriage over job. If one says that a man won't want that, it is just an example of prejudice I am talking about. The tension, the bad times, and the social stigma — everything is very much real, but they exist, and they exist for everyone. I am a man of little importance, except to my parents and friends. Yet, I am a man who respects both man and woman and disrespects anyone who disgraces someone's sanctity and self-pride.
It is my appeal to all feminist authors to know that there are men having hearts in their right place, and hence it is a request to them to be more sensitive in what they are writing.
PRATYUSH RAMAN
http://www.hindu.com/op/2010/09/26/stories/2010092656491600.htm
The August 29 issue of Open Page had five articles pertaining to feminism in one way or the other.
This article is not meant to deny the existence of important issues but looking at the same thing from the perspectives of different authors, again and again, is unfortunate. Cheesy headings, cheesier artworks and photographs, and comments coming from some of these essays are nothing short of an insult to an honest and sincere man.
It is also not uncommon to refer to men as a community totally separate from the human race and to present open biases against them.
In marriage, the freedom of the bride is often talked about. Agreed, some women have a hard time in their marriages, but here is some food for thought — can a man really be happy making someone suffer, especially his wife? Does a man not suffer if his marriage is not successful? It is extraordinary how it is presented as a woman-only problem whereas bad marriage, in reality, is a problem for both man and woman, and the loss, more than physical or monetary, is emotional. The result is that the issue can hardly be solved by law because law does not ‘know,' it ‘judges' and emotions can be hard things to ‘judge.'
A good relationship cannot be maintained at gunpoint, but by good counselling, understanding and communication. Decisions on freedom of woman (or man) or, in fact, anything that affects both lives, should be taken jointly. Some of these decisions are rather difficult, but unfortunately any external force is likely to make it worse.
It is often mentioned that women have a harder time at office. Promotions, perks and even salaries are lower for them. This problem is shown statistically, so let us answer it statistically. Surveys have shown that women don't demand as much as their male peers and for those who do, well, what to say? We have CEOs, we have leaders who are women; and, as far as male ego goes, a man won't like to be beaten by a woman. Accepted. He won't like to get beaten by a gentleman either.
Prejudice. A word used a lot in the context we are talking about. Parents' prejudice, peer prejudice, classmates' prejudice against a teacher's pet and what not. “I want to do a job, but my parents want me to marry after college and they want my brother to be an engineer in a good company. Why such prejudice?” asks a friend. I ask her if she can see her brother marrying instead of doing a job. She looks complaining but amused at the same time. If a woman is denied job over marriage, a man is denied marriage over job. If one says that a man won't want that, it is just an example of prejudice I am talking about. The tension, the bad times, and the social stigma — everything is very much real, but they exist, and they exist for everyone. I am a man of little importance, except to my parents and friends. Yet, I am a man who respects both man and woman and disrespects anyone who disgraces someone's sanctity and self-pride.
It is my appeal to all feminist authors to know that there are men having hearts in their right place, and hence it is a request to them to be more sensitive in what they are writing.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
More Men committed Sucide in India than Women
NEW DELHI: India reported 122,637 suicides last year — an average of 336 every day — with more men ending their lives than women, the latest report of the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) has revealed.
Although suicide was a nationwide phenomenon, five states — Maharashtra, Andhra Pradesh, West Bengal, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka — registered consistently higher number of suicidal deaths during the last few years. Overall, 2007 recorded an increase of 3.8% over the previous year's figure of 118,112.
Poverty was surprisingly not the major reason for suicide with more people ending their lives due to family (23.8%) and health problems (22.3%) than bankruptcy or sudden change in economic status (2.7%), love affairs (2.8%), dowry dispute (2.6%), unemployment (2%) and suspected/illicit relation (1.1%). Only 2.3% of people committed suicide due to poverty.
A definite trend is also noticed among different states which, perhaps, speaks volumes about the `psychological state' of people than their actual difficulties which they might be facing before being prompted to take the extreme step.
The latest report of the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released last month and covering the year 2007 has revealed much more. Incidentally, it is not the comparatively poor states like Bihar, Orissa and Uttar Pradesh which witnessed suicides in higher numbers. The dubious distiction, in fact, went to well-off states like Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka.
Out of the total 122,637 suicides committed in the country last year, the highest, 15,184, was reported from Maharashtra followed by Andhra Pradesh (14,882), West Bengal (14,860), Tamil Nadu (13,811) and Karnataka (12,304). These five states accounted for 57.9% of the total suicides reported in India. The remaining were reported from the other 23 states and seven Union Territories (UTs). UP, the most populous state (16.6% share of population) reported comparatively lower percentage, accounting for only 3.2% of total suicides.
As far as suicides committed by farmers (16,632) are concerned, Maharashtra (4,238) surpassed all other states with its Vidarbha region becoming the focal point.
According to the NCRB's report, Karnataka saw 2,135 farmer suicides, Andhra Pradesh (1,797), Chhattisgarh (1,593), Madhya Pradesh (1,263) and Kerala (1,232). Although the overall figure shows a slight fall from 17,060 in 2006, the broad trend remained unchanged with indebtedness becoming the main cause.
The number of farmers who committed suicide in Maharashtra accounted for more than a quarter of the total suicides reported in the state.
Referring to the sex profile of persons committing suicide during 2007, the NCRB report said social and economic causes led most males to kill themselves whereas emotional and personal causes mainly drove women to end their lives.
Sex wise figures show that the male-female ratio of suicide victims for 2007 was 65:35. However, the proportion of boys-girls suicide victims (upto 14 years was 48:52. The proportion of female victims was comparatively higher under the heads dowry dispute, illegitimate pregnancy, not having children, divorce, physical abuse, cancellation/non-settlement of marriage and suspected/illicit relation.
The NCRB, for the first time, gave statistics of family members committing suicide jointly under a common pact. Total 264 deaths were reported under this category where 118 males and 146 females committed suicide. The highest number of such cases were reported from Kerala (39) followed by Andhra Pradesh (34) and Madhya Pradesh (12).
According to NCRB, the means adopted for suicide varied from easily available means such as consumption of poison and jumping into a well to more painful means such as self-inflicted injuries, hanging and shooting.
Read more: More men committed suicide in India than women: Report - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/More_men_committed_suicide_Report/articleshow/3842361.cms#ixzz10AYR68hG
Although suicide was a nationwide phenomenon, five states — Maharashtra, Andhra Pradesh, West Bengal, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka — registered consistently higher number of suicidal deaths during the last few years. Overall, 2007 recorded an increase of 3.8% over the previous year's figure of 118,112.
Poverty was surprisingly not the major reason for suicide with more people ending their lives due to family (23.8%) and health problems (22.3%) than bankruptcy or sudden change in economic status (2.7%), love affairs (2.8%), dowry dispute (2.6%), unemployment (2%) and suspected/illicit relation (1.1%). Only 2.3% of people committed suicide due to poverty.
A definite trend is also noticed among different states which, perhaps, speaks volumes about the `psychological state' of people than their actual difficulties which they might be facing before being prompted to take the extreme step.
The latest report of the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), released last month and covering the year 2007 has revealed much more. Incidentally, it is not the comparatively poor states like Bihar, Orissa and Uttar Pradesh which witnessed suicides in higher numbers. The dubious distiction, in fact, went to well-off states like Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka.
Out of the total 122,637 suicides committed in the country last year, the highest, 15,184, was reported from Maharashtra followed by Andhra Pradesh (14,882), West Bengal (14,860), Tamil Nadu (13,811) and Karnataka (12,304). These five states accounted for 57.9% of the total suicides reported in India. The remaining were reported from the other 23 states and seven Union Territories (UTs). UP, the most populous state (16.6% share of population) reported comparatively lower percentage, accounting for only 3.2% of total suicides.
As far as suicides committed by farmers (16,632) are concerned, Maharashtra (4,238) surpassed all other states with its Vidarbha region becoming the focal point.
According to the NCRB's report, Karnataka saw 2,135 farmer suicides, Andhra Pradesh (1,797), Chhattisgarh (1,593), Madhya Pradesh (1,263) and Kerala (1,232). Although the overall figure shows a slight fall from 17,060 in 2006, the broad trend remained unchanged with indebtedness becoming the main cause.
The number of farmers who committed suicide in Maharashtra accounted for more than a quarter of the total suicides reported in the state.
Referring to the sex profile of persons committing suicide during 2007, the NCRB report said social and economic causes led most males to kill themselves whereas emotional and personal causes mainly drove women to end their lives.
Sex wise figures show that the male-female ratio of suicide victims for 2007 was 65:35. However, the proportion of boys-girls suicide victims (upto 14 years was 48:52. The proportion of female victims was comparatively higher under the heads dowry dispute, illegitimate pregnancy, not having children, divorce, physical abuse, cancellation/non-settlement of marriage and suspected/illicit relation.
The NCRB, for the first time, gave statistics of family members committing suicide jointly under a common pact. Total 264 deaths were reported under this category where 118 males and 146 females committed suicide. The highest number of such cases were reported from Kerala (39) followed by Andhra Pradesh (34) and Madhya Pradesh (12).
According to NCRB, the means adopted for suicide varied from easily available means such as consumption of poison and jumping into a well to more painful means such as self-inflicted injuries, hanging and shooting.
Read more: More men committed suicide in India than women: Report - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/More_men_committed_suicide_Report/articleshow/3842361.cms#ixzz10AYR68hG
Eight of 16 CJIs were 'corrupt', says ex-law minister
http://in.news.yahoo.com/43/20100916/812/tnl-eight-of-16-cjis-were-corrupt-says-e.html
Former Union Law Minister Shanti Bhushan Thursday told the Supreme Court that at least eight of the 16 chief justices of India (CJIs) were 'definitely corrupt'.
In an affidavit filed Thursday, senior counsel Shanti Bhushan said that six of the CJIs were 'definitely honest' and he could not comment on the remaining two judges.
The senior counsel sought to be impleaded in a case in which his son Prashant Bhushan is facing contempt proceedings.
Sixteen CJIs that Shanti Bhushan has mentioned in his affidavit are: Justice Rangnath Mishra, Justice K.N. Singh, Justice M.H. Kaina, Justice L.M. Sharma, Justice M.N. Venkatachalliah, Justice A.M. Ahemadi, Justice J.S. Verma, Justice M.M. Punchhi, Justice A.S. Anand, Justice S.P. Bharucha, Justice B.N. Kirpal, Justice G.B. Pathak, Justice Rajendra Babu, Justice R.C. Lohati, Justice V.N. Khare and Justice Y.K. Sabharwal.
Shanti Bhushan in his affidavit said that two former CJIs had personally told him that their immediate predecessors and immediate successors were corrupt judges. He said that the names of those four CJIs were included in the list of eight corrupt CJIs.
Former Union Law Minister Shanti Bhushan Thursday told the Supreme Court that at least eight of the 16 chief justices of India (CJIs) were 'definitely corrupt'.
In an affidavit filed Thursday, senior counsel Shanti Bhushan said that six of the CJIs were 'definitely honest' and he could not comment on the remaining two judges.
The senior counsel sought to be impleaded in a case in which his son Prashant Bhushan is facing contempt proceedings.
Sixteen CJIs that Shanti Bhushan has mentioned in his affidavit are: Justice Rangnath Mishra, Justice K.N. Singh, Justice M.H. Kaina, Justice L.M. Sharma, Justice M.N. Venkatachalliah, Justice A.M. Ahemadi, Justice J.S. Verma, Justice M.M. Punchhi, Justice A.S. Anand, Justice S.P. Bharucha, Justice B.N. Kirpal, Justice G.B. Pathak, Justice Rajendra Babu, Justice R.C. Lohati, Justice V.N. Khare and Justice Y.K. Sabharwal.
Shanti Bhushan in his affidavit said that two former CJIs had personally told him that their immediate predecessors and immediate successors were corrupt judges. He said that the names of those four CJIs were included in the list of eight corrupt CJIs.
There is a welfare ministry for women, why not one for men?
http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_there-is-a-welfare-ministry-for-women-why-not-one-for-men_1303548
Three years since the Protection of women from Domestic Violence (DV) Act was enforced, the Indian Family Foundation (IFF), comprising husbands allegedly victimised by the misuse of the law, demanded a law to protect them from abusive wives.
The IFF, an offshoot of the Save Family Foundation, consists of 30 members who have had matrimonial disputes and claimed to have their fingers “burnt”.
Addressing the media on Monday, Jinesh Zaveri of IFF said they had been conducting meetings for husbands, distressed owing to marital disputes, every weekend at the Sanjay Gandhi National Park, Borivli, and the Deshmukh Garden, Mulund, for a year.
“Every weekend we have at least 10 new cases coming before us where the wife has either vindictively lodged a false complaint against the husband and his family or threatened to do the same.”
Pointing out the loopholes in the DV Act, the IFF has stated that the law is “not woman-centric but wife-centric” as there is no remedy in it for a mother-in-law harassed by a daughter-in-law or protection against domestic violence for the husband, senior citizens and children.
“If a man files a complaint of cruelty against his wife it is treated as a non-cognisable offence. But when a woman files a cruelty complaint under 498A of the IPC, an FIR is registered and the husband and his family faces arrest,” Zaveri said. “Police custody for a common man is as good as conviction,” he added.
Bunty Jain of IFF said safeguards in the law should be introduced for men as well. “Let there be a section 498B in the IPC where even a man can complain against his wife for cruelty.” Moreover, he added, the right to maintenance given to the wife under section 125 of the CrPC is being misused for “legal extortion” from the husband. “Instead of asking the husband to pay maintenance, the law should make women self-sufficient.”
Citing a supreme court ruling, Zaveri said only 2% of cases under 498A are found to be genuine and the rest are false.
“In such instances, there should be a provision in law to punish the wife for lodging a false complaint,” he said.
Sandip Kedia of Child Rights and Family Welfare said when there is a women’s welfare ministry as well as an animal welfare board, there is an equally pressing need for men’s welfare ministry as well.
Women’s rights advocate Veena Gowda said IFF is raking a largely urban issue. “For a few urban men, who may have had problems, the law cannot be changed for the whole country,” she said. She said the section 498A is in fact under-used. In Mumbai, she said there were 380 cases filed under 498A in 2007.
“Are we to believe that in city with 163 lakh people, only 380 women were beaten by there husbands?” If the number of cases under 498A is compared with the number of women dying within a marriage, the latter will be far greater, she said, as a number of women never report the violence they are subjected to at home.
Gowda added that apart from the legal statistics, one cannot ignore social reality. “Indian society is still patriarchal and it has not reached a level where it can deal with gender neutral laws.”
Three years since the Protection of women from Domestic Violence (DV) Act was enforced, the Indian Family Foundation (IFF), comprising husbands allegedly victimised by the misuse of the law, demanded a law to protect them from abusive wives.
The IFF, an offshoot of the Save Family Foundation, consists of 30 members who have had matrimonial disputes and claimed to have their fingers “burnt”.
Addressing the media on Monday, Jinesh Zaveri of IFF said they had been conducting meetings for husbands, distressed owing to marital disputes, every weekend at the Sanjay Gandhi National Park, Borivli, and the Deshmukh Garden, Mulund, for a year.
“Every weekend we have at least 10 new cases coming before us where the wife has either vindictively lodged a false complaint against the husband and his family or threatened to do the same.”
Pointing out the loopholes in the DV Act, the IFF has stated that the law is “not woman-centric but wife-centric” as there is no remedy in it for a mother-in-law harassed by a daughter-in-law or protection against domestic violence for the husband, senior citizens and children.
“If a man files a complaint of cruelty against his wife it is treated as a non-cognisable offence. But when a woman files a cruelty complaint under 498A of the IPC, an FIR is registered and the husband and his family faces arrest,” Zaveri said. “Police custody for a common man is as good as conviction,” he added.
Bunty Jain of IFF said safeguards in the law should be introduced for men as well. “Let there be a section 498B in the IPC where even a man can complain against his wife for cruelty.” Moreover, he added, the right to maintenance given to the wife under section 125 of the CrPC is being misused for “legal extortion” from the husband. “Instead of asking the husband to pay maintenance, the law should make women self-sufficient.”
Citing a supreme court ruling, Zaveri said only 2% of cases under 498A are found to be genuine and the rest are false.
“In such instances, there should be a provision in law to punish the wife for lodging a false complaint,” he said.
Sandip Kedia of Child Rights and Family Welfare said when there is a women’s welfare ministry as well as an animal welfare board, there is an equally pressing need for men’s welfare ministry as well.
Women’s rights advocate Veena Gowda said IFF is raking a largely urban issue. “For a few urban men, who may have had problems, the law cannot be changed for the whole country,” she said. She said the section 498A is in fact under-used. In Mumbai, she said there were 380 cases filed under 498A in 2007.
“Are we to believe that in city with 163 lakh people, only 380 women were beaten by there husbands?” If the number of cases under 498A is compared with the number of women dying within a marriage, the latter will be far greater, she said, as a number of women never report the violence they are subjected to at home.
Gowda added that apart from the legal statistics, one cannot ignore social reality. “Indian society is still patriarchal and it has not reached a level where it can deal with gender neutral laws.”
'Mother, sisters protected equal to man's wife'
http://expressbuzz.com/nation/mother-sisters-protected-equal-to-mans-wife/208156.html
NEW DELHI: The mother and sisters of a man are equally protected in a dispute with his wife under the Domestic Violence Act and they cannot be made accused without a scrutiny of charges against them, a Delhi court has said.
"The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 protects the mothers, sisters and daughters from any kind of physical and mental abuse or violence in as much as it does the daughter-in-law. The court as a protector and implementor of rights, is required to perform a balancing act," Additional Sessions Judge Kamini Lau.
The court said that raising allegations by a woman against her mother-in-law and sisters-in-law without any substance would rather cause violence to them.
"Making wild allegations against an unmarried sister-in-law of a tender marriageable age by an estranged wife of brother tantamounts to inflicting violence upon her and it is the duty of the court to ensure that she is protected from the same.
"Violence can also be inflicted by an estranged wife or daughter-in-law or sister-in-law upon other members of the husband's family to gain and secure personal points and financial control or for separating her husband from his parents and other family members," the court said.
It further said that mother-in-law or sisters-in-law (married or unmarried) cannot be permitted to be subjected to harassment only because they happen to be related to the estranged husband of the woman (complainant).
"It is necessary to ensure the court does not get swayed by astute legal drafting of the counsel and is required to get at the truth of the allegations by examining them on the touch-stone of reasonableness and probabilities. Where a complaint appears to have been filed on grounds only to humiliate the family members, the same is required to be thrown out at the earliest opportunity", the court said.
The court made these observations while setting aside an order to summon the mother, two sisters-in-law including the married one of a man on a complaint filed by his wife alleging harassment.
ASJ Lau pointed out that the complainant alleged that her in-law had forcibly taken away her salary and wages which is false and incorrect as she herself admitted that she was not working. The court also said that the allegations regarding harassment for dowry do not appear to be "credible and truthful" particularly in view of the background that the marriage between the sparring couple was a secret, runaway marriage as an outcome of a love affair between them.
The woman said that she had married the man in July, 2008 and had faced harassment and torture for dowry.
NEW DELHI: The mother and sisters of a man are equally protected in a dispute with his wife under the Domestic Violence Act and they cannot be made accused without a scrutiny of charges against them, a Delhi court has said.
"The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 protects the mothers, sisters and daughters from any kind of physical and mental abuse or violence in as much as it does the daughter-in-law. The court as a protector and implementor of rights, is required to perform a balancing act," Additional Sessions Judge Kamini Lau.
The court said that raising allegations by a woman against her mother-in-law and sisters-in-law without any substance would rather cause violence to them.
"Making wild allegations against an unmarried sister-in-law of a tender marriageable age by an estranged wife of brother tantamounts to inflicting violence upon her and it is the duty of the court to ensure that she is protected from the same.
"Violence can also be inflicted by an estranged wife or daughter-in-law or sister-in-law upon other members of the husband's family to gain and secure personal points and financial control or for separating her husband from his parents and other family members," the court said.
It further said that mother-in-law or sisters-in-law (married or unmarried) cannot be permitted to be subjected to harassment only because they happen to be related to the estranged husband of the woman (complainant).
"It is necessary to ensure the court does not get swayed by astute legal drafting of the counsel and is required to get at the truth of the allegations by examining them on the touch-stone of reasonableness and probabilities. Where a complaint appears to have been filed on grounds only to humiliate the family members, the same is required to be thrown out at the earliest opportunity", the court said.
The court made these observations while setting aside an order to summon the mother, two sisters-in-law including the married one of a man on a complaint filed by his wife alleging harassment.
ASJ Lau pointed out that the complainant alleged that her in-law had forcibly taken away her salary and wages which is false and incorrect as she herself admitted that she was not working. The court also said that the allegations regarding harassment for dowry do not appear to be "credible and truthful" particularly in view of the background that the marriage between the sparring couple was a secret, runaway marriage as an outcome of a love affair between them.
The woman said that she had married the man in July, 2008 and had faced harassment and torture for dowry.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Some of precautionary measures to be followed before & after 498a cases
Some of precautionary measures to be followed before & after 498a cases
General:
* Right from the marriage learn about the marriage laws of India . (Divorce Laws / Various Grounds for divorce/ Alimony / Other by products like 498a, DV Act etc)
* Never commit fully with wife & her family before making sure that the girl really loves husband & respects his family.(Like spending money to their family, getting job to her brothers etc)
* Love, Respect, Trust & Intimacy are the four pillars of marriage. If it misses any one of these 4, then definitely it will end up with divorce & in turn 498a in current trend.
Wife Side Family Structure:
* Understand the structure of the wife' family. Get to know about the decision-making & influencing people from their family.
* Collect all the employment & social standings of male members of wife's family.
* Get the contact details, employment details and social background of as many relatives as possible of wife’s side.
* Don't disclose any financial information of your family to anybody from wife's side.
* Never discuss wife side family matters, financial interests, investments etc.
* If something fishy about the activities of wife & her relatives, try to reduce the interaction with her relatives.
During Marriage Life:
* Keep evidence / bills / receipts etc for every purchase / expenses you do when u r with wife.
* Never believe the innocent face of the wife after acrimonious quarrels with her husband.
* Try to find out opposing member from wife's family to get information. Keep in touch with them & it will be very helpful in case of 498a & DV act cases.
* It’s easy to find impending cases & actions from wife's side by her behavior with husband & his family. If u smells any abnormality, don’t argue with her & try to solve or mellow down the wife.
* Learn about health abnormalities of the wife & past records of it, if any.
* Read about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) & related abnormalities. Try to understand the symptoms w.r.t the wife’s behavior. These disorders are very crucial in deciding the behavior. No sane female will try having her marriage life, personal things, etc in Police records & try to book criminal case against her husband & put him in the jail.
Pre 498a:
* Try to read between the lines in wife’s family conversation, as there can be lot of clues for the impending cases.
* If u r sure that the marriage will not last, make the first move. That is filing either RCR or Divorce petition, based on nature of wife.
* In case of martial problems, where husband is 100% sure that wife won’t rejoin, file RCR & enjoy the fun at family court counseling sessions.
* If the FIL & any other male members or relatives of the wife is in Govt job & if the wife behaves abnormally, be sure that 498a is going to hit you any time. Govt employees are well aware of the dowry case & women's cell. And they think that its one of their perks to implicate false dowry case, if some female from their family has troubled marriage.
* But the advantage of having relatives or FIL in the govt job is, u can nail them easily as so many rules & regulations are framed in various govt depts.
* Do your homework to learn about laws & issues related to 498a & DV act. Make sure that Police, lawyers & wife's family are aware about your knowledge in these cases. If Police comes to know about your awareness on these issues, they will never dare to intimidate you.
Post 498a:
* Keep in mind. If 498a is in your fate, nothing in this world could stop it. So main strategy is to keep calm & collect information on their movements. Don’t discuss much about the problem.
* Contact nearest SIF team members & attend the meetings regularly to under stand the gravity of the problem.
* Don’t panic & ask your family members not to panic. Make them aware of all these false dowry cases & its motive. For parents & elders false dowry cases will be a great shock. Educate them & make them comfortable.
* Never accept the demands of the police & lawyers for settlement & mutual consent divorce with 498a as intimidating weapon.
* Adhere the conditions of AB & say good bye to Police station.
* Don’t withdraw RCR & make those ill educated girl & her family to run around family court.
* It’s for sure, if you hold the fort for 6 months - 1 year, they will definitely come to your terms. You can dictate things as per your will.
* NEVER, repeat NEVER go for Mutual Consent Divorce when 498a case is open.
* Keep watching the moments of immediate family members & other family members from the wife side thru contacts or detective agencies. Be sure if a girl is filing a false 498a on her husband means, credibility, moral are very low in her family. Definitely there could be lot of abnormalities their family. Get detailed background about her parents & siblings. (This should have been done b4 marriage. Since we missed it, we got trapped in 498a)
* If the girl is employed or eligible for employment, keep a special eye on her moments. It will be very helpful for maintenance cases.
* Never be in hurry to settle the case with money. The police & the crooked lawyers can't do anything, once u passes the initial ordeals in the police station.
* In counseling sessions of RCR case, try to confuse the counselor & wife as much as possible by saying only good things about your wife, even if she had done nothing to u.(It will be real fun)
* Never show interest on 2nd marriage in any of your conversations with lawyers & wife's side.
* If the instigators, brothers, FIL are in govt job, collect info abt their credibility & make a move accordingly. Try to nail them individually by creating problems to them. Nobody will help others, if their own house is on fire.
* Uses RTI to its maximum extend. It’s our “Brahmastra” to tackle 498a case. RTI can be used effectively against the members of wife side, with clear cut objective.
* Don’t be in urge to file counter cases. Make slow & steady moves to nail them.
* Get the copy of the complaint or charge sheet & read every word in those documents. You can get numerous clues to file counter cases. Discuss with senior SIF members on this.
* Collect evidences to counter the allegations mentioned in the complaint.
* Trust that it’s extremely difficult to prove false allegations. So run thru your memory lane & write down all the incidents, fights, arguments happened between u & your wife from the day of your marriage. This will be very helpful in courts & counseling sessions.
* Keep a careful watch during counseling sessions in family court as u can get many clues & counter arguments from wife’s statement & counselor’s queries.
Advantages of false dowry cases:
* Never lose heart for these filthy cases, which kills time & money. It will definitely test your nerves & will power. At the end of this ordeal u will be surprised to see your own strength & will power growing immensely.
* Believe me, there is no other ordeal in this great nation (Jai Hind!) for its own citizens as intimidating & cruel than false 498a case. (And not every citizen of this country is blessed with this case, to test their nerves)
* Please concentrate on your job or business as usual. Everything will be cleared & u can start a fresh personal life. Believe me; these cases can supply immense will power, which u can use in job or business to deal with day to day problems.
* Can get rid of ill educated & crooked wife.
* You will be aware of so many laws, IPCs & functions of Indian Judiciary, Police & other Govt organizations.
* Your strength & will power will improve tremendously, which will be very vital in this completive world. This is the real benefit out of 498a.
And always believe that, "TRUTH ALONE TRIUMPHS"
General:
* Right from the marriage learn about the marriage laws of India . (Divorce Laws / Various Grounds for divorce/ Alimony / Other by products like 498a, DV Act etc)
* Never commit fully with wife & her family before making sure that the girl really loves husband & respects his family.(Like spending money to their family, getting job to her brothers etc)
* Love, Respect, Trust & Intimacy are the four pillars of marriage. If it misses any one of these 4, then definitely it will end up with divorce & in turn 498a in current trend.
Wife Side Family Structure:
* Understand the structure of the wife' family. Get to know about the decision-making & influencing people from their family.
* Collect all the employment & social standings of male members of wife's family.
* Get the contact details, employment details and social background of as many relatives as possible of wife’s side.
* Don't disclose any financial information of your family to anybody from wife's side.
* Never discuss wife side family matters, financial interests, investments etc.
* If something fishy about the activities of wife & her relatives, try to reduce the interaction with her relatives.
During Marriage Life:
* Keep evidence / bills / receipts etc for every purchase / expenses you do when u r with wife.
* Never believe the innocent face of the wife after acrimonious quarrels with her husband.
* Try to find out opposing member from wife's family to get information. Keep in touch with them & it will be very helpful in case of 498a & DV act cases.
* It’s easy to find impending cases & actions from wife's side by her behavior with husband & his family. If u smells any abnormality, don’t argue with her & try to solve or mellow down the wife.
* Learn about health abnormalities of the wife & past records of it, if any.
* Read about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) & related abnormalities. Try to understand the symptoms w.r.t the wife’s behavior. These disorders are very crucial in deciding the behavior. No sane female will try having her marriage life, personal things, etc in Police records & try to book criminal case against her husband & put him in the jail.
Pre 498a:
* Try to read between the lines in wife’s family conversation, as there can be lot of clues for the impending cases.
* If u r sure that the marriage will not last, make the first move. That is filing either RCR or Divorce petition, based on nature of wife.
* In case of martial problems, where husband is 100% sure that wife won’t rejoin, file RCR & enjoy the fun at family court counseling sessions.
* If the FIL & any other male members or relatives of the wife is in Govt job & if the wife behaves abnormally, be sure that 498a is going to hit you any time. Govt employees are well aware of the dowry case & women's cell. And they think that its one of their perks to implicate false dowry case, if some female from their family has troubled marriage.
* But the advantage of having relatives or FIL in the govt job is, u can nail them easily as so many rules & regulations are framed in various govt depts.
* Do your homework to learn about laws & issues related to 498a & DV act. Make sure that Police, lawyers & wife's family are aware about your knowledge in these cases. If Police comes to know about your awareness on these issues, they will never dare to intimidate you.
Post 498a:
* Keep in mind. If 498a is in your fate, nothing in this world could stop it. So main strategy is to keep calm & collect information on their movements. Don’t discuss much about the problem.
* Contact nearest SIF team members & attend the meetings regularly to under stand the gravity of the problem.
* Don’t panic & ask your family members not to panic. Make them aware of all these false dowry cases & its motive. For parents & elders false dowry cases will be a great shock. Educate them & make them comfortable.
* Never accept the demands of the police & lawyers for settlement & mutual consent divorce with 498a as intimidating weapon.
* Adhere the conditions of AB & say good bye to Police station.
* Don’t withdraw RCR & make those ill educated girl & her family to run around family court.
* It’s for sure, if you hold the fort for 6 months - 1 year, they will definitely come to your terms. You can dictate things as per your will.
* NEVER, repeat NEVER go for Mutual Consent Divorce when 498a case is open.
* Keep watching the moments of immediate family members & other family members from the wife side thru contacts or detective agencies. Be sure if a girl is filing a false 498a on her husband means, credibility, moral are very low in her family. Definitely there could be lot of abnormalities their family. Get detailed background about her parents & siblings. (This should have been done b4 marriage. Since we missed it, we got trapped in 498a)
* If the girl is employed or eligible for employment, keep a special eye on her moments. It will be very helpful for maintenance cases.
* Never be in hurry to settle the case with money. The police & the crooked lawyers can't do anything, once u passes the initial ordeals in the police station.
* In counseling sessions of RCR case, try to confuse the counselor & wife as much as possible by saying only good things about your wife, even if she had done nothing to u.(It will be real fun)
* Never show interest on 2nd marriage in any of your conversations with lawyers & wife's side.
* If the instigators, brothers, FIL are in govt job, collect info abt their credibility & make a move accordingly. Try to nail them individually by creating problems to them. Nobody will help others, if their own house is on fire.
* Uses RTI to its maximum extend. It’s our “Brahmastra” to tackle 498a case. RTI can be used effectively against the members of wife side, with clear cut objective.
* Don’t be in urge to file counter cases. Make slow & steady moves to nail them.
* Get the copy of the complaint or charge sheet & read every word in those documents. You can get numerous clues to file counter cases. Discuss with senior SIF members on this.
* Collect evidences to counter the allegations mentioned in the complaint.
* Trust that it’s extremely difficult to prove false allegations. So run thru your memory lane & write down all the incidents, fights, arguments happened between u & your wife from the day of your marriage. This will be very helpful in courts & counseling sessions.
* Keep a careful watch during counseling sessions in family court as u can get many clues & counter arguments from wife’s statement & counselor’s queries.
Advantages of false dowry cases:
* Never lose heart for these filthy cases, which kills time & money. It will definitely test your nerves & will power. At the end of this ordeal u will be surprised to see your own strength & will power growing immensely.
* Believe me, there is no other ordeal in this great nation (Jai Hind!) for its own citizens as intimidating & cruel than false 498a case. (And not every citizen of this country is blessed with this case, to test their nerves)
* Please concentrate on your job or business as usual. Everything will be cleared & u can start a fresh personal life. Believe me; these cases can supply immense will power, which u can use in job or business to deal with day to day problems.
* Can get rid of ill educated & crooked wife.
* You will be aware of so many laws, IPCs & functions of Indian Judiciary, Police & other Govt organizations.
* Your strength & will power will improve tremendously, which will be very vital in this completive world. This is the real benefit out of 498a.
And always believe that, "TRUTH ALONE TRIUMPHS"
Monday, July 19, 2010
Men Who Cry- The Open Magazine Article
Article on Save Indian family movement in Open Magazine. Its an interesting coverage, candid and forthright.
http://www.openthemagazine.com/article/living/men-who-cry
SATURDAY MEETINGS
Every Saturday evening, members of the Safe Family Foundation (SFF) meet at Delhi’s Patiala House Court Complex, where incidentally some of them are fighting charges under, among others, Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code that refers to ‘cruelty by husband or relatives of husband’,
http://www.openthemagazine.com/article/living/men-who-cry
SATURDAY MEETINGS
Every Saturday evening, members of the Safe Family Foundation (SFF) meet at Delhi’s Patiala House Court Complex, where incidentally some of them are fighting charges under, among others, Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code that refers to ‘cruelty by husband or relatives of husband’,
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
HC Mediation centre
First of all no need to give them undue advantage by loosing in the mind by thinking we can't do anything to our wife and in laws. We have to fight hard to get a case registered, but if we are just be a sitting duck, anyone can hit us.
Empower self with IPC as well as CrPC & RTI's replies and regularly attend SIFF Meetings
HC Mediation:
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1. Anytime you can say it is not in your interest and fail the mediation.
2. Dont worry about comments in report. Its only say pass or fail and you can substantiate the reason in the court (they being unreasonable/whatever reason you think)
3. During mediation, be firm and don't sound like you are way too flexible and you will not complain if they do or say anything unreasonable and trying to bully you. You can even tell the mediator also that they have to be fair and impartial (just to keep them on the backfoot, obviously they will come up with, i have so much experience and haven't seen anyone act like this and all that bullshit).
4. You have to keep changing your stance on what you want. Do not show what your real intentions are.
5. Be soft vs be hard, be aggressive vs be reasonable.
6. In the end if it is not to your liking, just say it is not going anywhere.
We have to help ourselves. Untill unless you fight you will not get anything.
Empower self with IPC as well as CrPC & RTI's replies and regularly attend SIFF Meetings
HC Mediation:
-------------
1. Anytime you can say it is not in your interest and fail the mediation.
2. Dont worry about comments in report. Its only say pass or fail and you can substantiate the reason in the court (they being unreasonable/whatever reason you think)
3. During mediation, be firm and don't sound like you are way too flexible and you will not complain if they do or say anything unreasonable and trying to bully you. You can even tell the mediator also that they have to be fair and impartial (just to keep them on the backfoot, obviously they will come up with, i have so much experience and haven't seen anyone act like this and all that bullshit).
4. You have to keep changing your stance on what you want. Do not show what your real intentions are.
5. Be soft vs be hard, be aggressive vs be reasonable.
6. In the end if it is not to your liking, just say it is not going anywhere.
We have to help ourselves. Untill unless you fight you will not get anything.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Domestic Violence – A checklist for Men.
Domestic Violence – A checklist for Men.
For general public Domestic Violence (DV) means a drunken guy beating his wife. If this is the only picture coming to your mind while talking about violence at home then you are completely wrong.
As per section 37 of Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA), central government has the right to define the “Rules” regarding execution of domestic violence Act. This article is about the definitions or various other offenses, given by Ministry of Women And Child Development through notification in The Gazette of India: Extraordinary on 17th of October, 2006.
The following excerpts are from the form that an aggrieved woman needs to fill out while reporting a domestic incident of violence. So wherever it is mentioned “you” means the aggrieved woman.
Economic violence
Not providing money for maintaining you or your children.
Not providing food, clothes, medicine, etc, for you or your children.
Forcing you out of the house you live in.
Preventing you from accessing or using any part of the house.
Preventing or obstructing you from carrying on your employment.
Not allowing you to take up an employment.
Non payment of rent in case of a rented accommodation.
Not allowing you to use clothes or articles of general household use.
Selling or pawing your stridhan or any other valuables without informing you and without your consent.
Forcibly taking away your income, salary or wages etc.
Disposing your stridhan.
Non payment of other bills such as electricity etc.
Any other economic violence.
Dowry related harassment
Demands for dowry made.
Any other detail with regard to dowry.
Physical violence
Beating
Slapping
Hitting
Biting
Kicking
Punching
Pushing
Shoving
Causing bodily pain or injury in any other manner
Verbal and Emotional Violence
Insults
Accusation/aspersion on your character or conduct etc
Insult for not bringing dowry etc
Insult for not having male child
Insult for not having any child
Demeaning, humiliating or undermining remarks/statements
Ridicule
Name calling
Forcing you to not attend school, college or any other educational institution.
Preventing you from taking up a job.
Preventing you from leaving the house
preventing you from meeting any particular person.
Forcing you to get married against your will.
Forcing you to get married when you do not want to marry.
Preventing you from marrying a person of your choice.
Forcing you to marry a person of his/their own choice.
Threat to commit suicide
Any other verbal or emotional abuse
Sexual Violence
Forced Sexual Intercourse
Forced to watch pornography or other obscene material
Forcibly using you to entertain others
Any other act of sexual nature, abusing, humiliating, degrading or otherwise violative of your dignity
If any act of domestic violence is committed against you by a person(s) with whom you are/were residing in the same house, you can get all or any of the following orders against the person(s)
(a) Under Section 18:
1. To stop committing any further acts of domestic violence on you or your children;
2. To give you the possession of your stridhan, jewellery, clothes etc.
3. Not to operate the joint bank accounts or lockers without permission of the court
(b) Under Section 19:
1. Not to stop you from residing in the house where you were residing with the person(s)
2. Not to disturb or interfere with your peaceful enjoyment of residence
3. Not to dispose off the house in which you are residing
4. If your residence is a rented property then either to ensure payment of rent or secure any other suitable alternative accommodation which offers you the same security and facilities as earlier residence.
5. Not to give up the rights in the property in which you are residing without the permission of the court.
6. Not to take any loan against the house/property in which you are residing or mortgage it or create any other financial liability involving the property.
7. Any or all of the following orders for your safety requiring the person(s) to
(c) General Order:
1. Stop the domestic violence complained/reported
(d) Special Orders:
1. Remove him/stay away from your place of residence or workplace;
2. Stop making any attempts to meet you
3. Stop calling you over phone or making any attempts to communicate with you by letter, e-mail etc
4. Stop talking to you about marriage or forcing you to meet a particular person of his/their choice for marriage
5. Stay away from the school of your child/children, or any other place where you or your children visit
6. Surrender possession of fire arms, any other weapons or any other dangerous substance
7. Not to acquire possession of fire arm, any other weapons or any other dangerous substance and not to be in possession of any similar article
8. Not to consume alcohol or drugs with similar effect which led to domestic violence in the past
9. Any other measure required for ensuring your or your children’s safety
(e) An order of interim monetary relief under section 20 and 22 including –
Maintenance for you and your children
Compensation for physical injury including medical expenses
Compensation for mental torture and emotional distress
Compensation for loss of earning
Compensation for loss caused by destruction, damage, removal of any property from your possession or control
Note: – Any of the above relief can be granted on an interim basis, as soon as you make a complaint of domestic violence and present your application for any of the relief before the court.
Alright guys, now tell me how many of you are engaged in domestic violence? Does that make sense when NCW, WCD, UN, UNIFEM etc (most probably you too) saying 70% of women in India face domestic violence? It is not one out of three but three out three women in India are facing domestic violence as per this Rule.
It will cost several pages if I start explaining all the points in the Rules, so I’ll take a couple of simple examples and leave the rest as food for your thoughts.
Eg 1:- “Not allowing you to use clothes or articles of general household use” — How many of you guys might have told women in your house that “No TV until your exams are done” or “No serials until the cricket match is over”.
Eg 2:- “Not to disturb or interfere with your peaceful enjoyment of residence” —
If you happen to know that your wife is using your residence for any unlawful activity or meeting with her paramour(s) you most likely want her to move out of the house. But PWDVA ensures that you will be restrained from getting into your own house because you have committed domestic violence based on this poorly drafted unconstitutional Act.
If you never knew that you are committing domestic violence, it is not a valid point because “Ignorantia juris non excusat”; means ignorance of law is not an excuse.
You might think women are committing domestic violence against men when they do one or more acts mentioned in the Rules; then you are totally mistaken. As per this Act women are ALWAYS victims and men are ALWAYS perpetrators.
For general public Domestic Violence (DV) means a drunken guy beating his wife. If this is the only picture coming to your mind while talking about violence at home then you are completely wrong.
As per section 37 of Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA), central government has the right to define the “Rules” regarding execution of domestic violence Act. This article is about the definitions or various other offenses, given by Ministry of Women And Child Development through notification in The Gazette of India: Extraordinary on 17th of October, 2006.
The following excerpts are from the form that an aggrieved woman needs to fill out while reporting a domestic incident of violence. So wherever it is mentioned “you” means the aggrieved woman.
Economic violence
Not providing money for maintaining you or your children.
Not providing food, clothes, medicine, etc, for you or your children.
Forcing you out of the house you live in.
Preventing you from accessing or using any part of the house.
Preventing or obstructing you from carrying on your employment.
Not allowing you to take up an employment.
Non payment of rent in case of a rented accommodation.
Not allowing you to use clothes or articles of general household use.
Selling or pawing your stridhan or any other valuables without informing you and without your consent.
Forcibly taking away your income, salary or wages etc.
Disposing your stridhan.
Non payment of other bills such as electricity etc.
Any other economic violence.
Dowry related harassment
Demands for dowry made.
Any other detail with regard to dowry.
Physical violence
Beating
Slapping
Hitting
Biting
Kicking
Punching
Pushing
Shoving
Causing bodily pain or injury in any other manner
Verbal and Emotional Violence
Insults
Accusation/aspersion on your character or conduct etc
Insult for not bringing dowry etc
Insult for not having male child
Insult for not having any child
Demeaning, humiliating or undermining remarks/statements
Ridicule
Name calling
Forcing you to not attend school, college or any other educational institution.
Preventing you from taking up a job.
Preventing you from leaving the house
preventing you from meeting any particular person.
Forcing you to get married against your will.
Forcing you to get married when you do not want to marry.
Preventing you from marrying a person of your choice.
Forcing you to marry a person of his/their own choice.
Threat to commit suicide
Any other verbal or emotional abuse
Sexual Violence
Forced Sexual Intercourse
Forced to watch pornography or other obscene material
Forcibly using you to entertain others
Any other act of sexual nature, abusing, humiliating, degrading or otherwise violative of your dignity
If any act of domestic violence is committed against you by a person(s) with whom you are/were residing in the same house, you can get all or any of the following orders against the person(s)
(a) Under Section 18:
1. To stop committing any further acts of domestic violence on you or your children;
2. To give you the possession of your stridhan, jewellery, clothes etc.
3. Not to operate the joint bank accounts or lockers without permission of the court
(b) Under Section 19:
1. Not to stop you from residing in the house where you were residing with the person(s)
2. Not to disturb or interfere with your peaceful enjoyment of residence
3. Not to dispose off the house in which you are residing
4. If your residence is a rented property then either to ensure payment of rent or secure any other suitable alternative accommodation which offers you the same security and facilities as earlier residence.
5. Not to give up the rights in the property in which you are residing without the permission of the court.
6. Not to take any loan against the house/property in which you are residing or mortgage it or create any other financial liability involving the property.
7. Any or all of the following orders for your safety requiring the person(s) to
(c) General Order:
1. Stop the domestic violence complained/reported
(d) Special Orders:
1. Remove him/stay away from your place of residence or workplace;
2. Stop making any attempts to meet you
3. Stop calling you over phone or making any attempts to communicate with you by letter, e-mail etc
4. Stop talking to you about marriage or forcing you to meet a particular person of his/their choice for marriage
5. Stay away from the school of your child/children, or any other place where you or your children visit
6. Surrender possession of fire arms, any other weapons or any other dangerous substance
7. Not to acquire possession of fire arm, any other weapons or any other dangerous substance and not to be in possession of any similar article
8. Not to consume alcohol or drugs with similar effect which led to domestic violence in the past
9. Any other measure required for ensuring your or your children’s safety
(e) An order of interim monetary relief under section 20 and 22 including –
Maintenance for you and your children
Compensation for physical injury including medical expenses
Compensation for mental torture and emotional distress
Compensation for loss of earning
Compensation for loss caused by destruction, damage, removal of any property from your possession or control
Note: – Any of the above relief can be granted on an interim basis, as soon as you make a complaint of domestic violence and present your application for any of the relief before the court.
Alright guys, now tell me how many of you are engaged in domestic violence? Does that make sense when NCW, WCD, UN, UNIFEM etc (most probably you too) saying 70% of women in India face domestic violence? It is not one out of three but three out three women in India are facing domestic violence as per this Rule.
It will cost several pages if I start explaining all the points in the Rules, so I’ll take a couple of simple examples and leave the rest as food for your thoughts.
Eg 1:- “Not allowing you to use clothes or articles of general household use” — How many of you guys might have told women in your house that “No TV until your exams are done” or “No serials until the cricket match is over”.
Eg 2:- “Not to disturb or interfere with your peaceful enjoyment of residence” —
If you happen to know that your wife is using your residence for any unlawful activity or meeting with her paramour(s) you most likely want her to move out of the house. But PWDVA ensures that you will be restrained from getting into your own house because you have committed domestic violence based on this poorly drafted unconstitutional Act.
If you never knew that you are committing domestic violence, it is not a valid point because “Ignorantia juris non excusat”; means ignorance of law is not an excuse.
You might think women are committing domestic violence against men when they do one or more acts mentioned in the Rules; then you are totally mistaken. As per this Act women are ALWAYS victims and men are ALWAYS perpetrators.
The Faithful Dog
*The Faithful Dog*
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*The old Story in new look*
There is a legend of a woman who had a faithful dog. This dog was so
faithful that the woman could leave her baby with it and go out to attend
other matters. She always returned to find the child soundly asleep with the
dog faithfully watching over him.
One day, something tragic happened.
The woman as usual, left the baby in the "hands" of this faithful dog and
went out shopping. When she returned, she discovered a rather nasty scene.
There was a total mess.
The baby's cot was dismantled. His nappies and clothes torn to shreds, with
bloodstains all over the bedroom where she had left the child and the dog.
Shocked, the woman wailed as she began looking for the baby.
Presently, she saw the faithful dog emerging from the under the bed. It was
covered with blood and licking its mouth as if it had just finished a
delicious meal. The woman went berserk and assumed that the dog had devoured
her baby. Without much thought, she clubbed the dog to death.
But as she continued searching for the "remains" of her child, she beheld
another scene.
Close to the bed was her baby who, although lying on the bare floor, was
safe. And under the bed, the carcass of a jackal torn to pieces in what must
have been a fierce battle between it and the dog which was now dead.
Then reality hit the woman, who now began to understand what took place in
her absence. The dog fought to protect the baby from the ravenous jackal. It
was too late for her now to make amends because in her impatience and anger,
she had killed the faithful dog.
*Question: How often have we misjudged people and torn them to shreds with
harsh words and even with physical assault before we have had time to
evaluate the situation? A little patience can drastically reduce major life
long errors.*
*
Think about it!***
--
(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and
caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)
* *
* *
*The old Story in new look*
There is a legend of a woman who had a faithful dog. This dog was so
faithful that the woman could leave her baby with it and go out to attend
other matters. She always returned to find the child soundly asleep with the
dog faithfully watching over him.
One day, something tragic happened.
The woman as usual, left the baby in the "hands" of this faithful dog and
went out shopping. When she returned, she discovered a rather nasty scene.
There was a total mess.
The baby's cot was dismantled. His nappies and clothes torn to shreds, with
bloodstains all over the bedroom where she had left the child and the dog.
Shocked, the woman wailed as she began looking for the baby.
Presently, she saw the faithful dog emerging from the under the bed. It was
covered with blood and licking its mouth as if it had just finished a
delicious meal. The woman went berserk and assumed that the dog had devoured
her baby. Without much thought, she clubbed the dog to death.
But as she continued searching for the "remains" of her child, she beheld
another scene.
Close to the bed was her baby who, although lying on the bare floor, was
safe. And under the bed, the carcass of a jackal torn to pieces in what must
have been a fierce battle between it and the dog which was now dead.
Then reality hit the woman, who now began to understand what took place in
her absence. The dog fought to protect the baby from the ravenous jackal. It
was too late for her now to make amends because in her impatience and anger,
she had killed the faithful dog.
*Question: How often have we misjudged people and torn them to shreds with
harsh words and even with physical assault before we have had time to
evaluate the situation? A little patience can drastically reduce major life
long errors.*
*
Think about it!***
--
(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and
caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)
Friday, June 11, 2010
Forget about freedom: SC to husbands
Marriage is a crime for men in India. Openly the husband is being treated as
FREE ATM MACHINE.
Courts have reduced themselves to settlement centers between husband and
wife to enable wife to loot and extort husband legally. Hats off to Supreme
Court to come out in its true colors.
All this had been happening under the carpet, now it is happening openly.
Refer news,
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/politics/nation/Forget-about-freedom-SC-to-husbands/articleshow/6034997.cms
FREE ATM MACHINE.
Courts have reduced themselves to settlement centers between husband and
wife to enable wife to loot and extort husband legally. Hats off to Supreme
Court to come out in its true colors.
All this had been happening under the carpet, now it is happening openly.
Refer news,
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/politics/nation/Forget-about-freedom-SC-to-husbands/articleshow/6034997.cms
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Women too can be booked for domestic violence, rules court
Fri, Jun 4 07:10 PM
New Delhi, June 4 (IANS) The Delhi High Court Friday ruled that mother-in-law too can be charged under the Domestic Violence Act.
A division bench of Justice A.K. Sikri and Justice Ajit Bharihoke said, 'It is common knowledge that in case a wife is harassed by husband, other family members may also join him in treating her cruelly. And such members would invariably include female relatives as well.'
'If restricted interpretation to the Domestic Violence Act is given, the very purpose for which this act is enacted would be defeated. It would be very easy for the husband or other male members to frustrate the remedy by ensuring that the violence on the wife is perpetrated by female members,' the court said.
The court was hearing the appeal filed by Varsha Kapoor, mother-in-law, against a lower court order that had issued her a notice for violation of the provisions of the Act.
Kapoor had challenged the order, saying a woman cannot charge another woman under Domestic Violence Act.
The petitioner also stated that the act is enacted to protect women from men, and therefore, a woman cannot be respondent in a petition filed by another woman.
'We are afraid there is hardly any merit in the argument. Main provision deals with those who are in a domestic relationship with the respondent, whereas proviso deals with aggrieved wife or a female in live-in relationship,' the court said.
http://in.news.yahoo.com/43/20100604/812/tnl-women-too-can-be-booked-for-domestic.html
New Delhi, June 4 (IANS) The Delhi High Court Friday ruled that mother-in-law too can be charged under the Domestic Violence Act.
A division bench of Justice A.K. Sikri and Justice Ajit Bharihoke said, 'It is common knowledge that in case a wife is harassed by husband, other family members may also join him in treating her cruelly. And such members would invariably include female relatives as well.'
'If restricted interpretation to the Domestic Violence Act is given, the very purpose for which this act is enacted would be defeated. It would be very easy for the husband or other male members to frustrate the remedy by ensuring that the violence on the wife is perpetrated by female members,' the court said.
The court was hearing the appeal filed by Varsha Kapoor, mother-in-law, against a lower court order that had issued her a notice for violation of the provisions of the Act.
Kapoor had challenged the order, saying a woman cannot charge another woman under Domestic Violence Act.
The petitioner also stated that the act is enacted to protect women from men, and therefore, a woman cannot be respondent in a petition filed by another woman.
'We are afraid there is hardly any merit in the argument. Main provision deals with those who are in a domestic relationship with the respondent, whereas proviso deals with aggrieved wife or a female in live-in relationship,' the court said.
http://in.news.yahoo.com/43/20100604/812/tnl-women-too-can-be-booked-for-domestic.html
498a Stats
Data you should know and remember all the time
Total 498A cases filed In 2008, 105809 cases were filed under IPC 498A. It means every 4.90 minutes one case is filed under IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - TOTAL : In 2008, 164861 persons were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 3.19 minutes one innocent person is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - MALES : In 2008, 127492 males were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 4.12 minutes one innocent male is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - FEMALES : In 2008, 37369 females were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 14.07 minutes one innocent female is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - Children : In 2007, 302 children were arrested in IPC 498A. It means almost per day one child is being arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A – Senior Citizens : In 2007, 3500 senior citizens were arrested in IPC 498A. It means almost every 2.5 hours one senior citizen is being arrested in IPC 498A.
Suicide by husbands - 2008 : In 2008, 80544 husbands committed suicide. That means every 6.52 minutes one husband is committing suicide.
During 1937 to 1947 (10 Years), they arrested 5,000 women involved in the freedom struggle.
From 2004 to 2006, the govt of India arrested 90,000 women of all ages under 498A. On the average, 27,000 women per year are being arrested under this flawed law.
These are stats from the NCRB.
Total 498A cases filed In 2008, 105809 cases were filed under IPC 498A. It means every 4.90 minutes one case is filed under IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - TOTAL : In 2008, 164861 persons were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 3.19 minutes one innocent person is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - MALES : In 2008, 127492 males were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 4.12 minutes one innocent male is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - FEMALES : In 2008, 37369 females were arrested in IPC 498A. It means every 14.07 minutes one innocent female is getting arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A - Children : In 2007, 302 children were arrested in IPC 498A. It means almost per day one child is being arrested in IPC 498A.
Total Arrests in 498A – Senior Citizens : In 2007, 3500 senior citizens were arrested in IPC 498A. It means almost every 2.5 hours one senior citizen is being arrested in IPC 498A.
Suicide by husbands - 2008 : In 2008, 80544 husbands committed suicide. That means every 6.52 minutes one husband is committing suicide.
During 1937 to 1947 (10 Years), they arrested 5,000 women involved in the freedom struggle.
From 2004 to 2006, the govt of India arrested 90,000 women of all ages under 498A. On the average, 27,000 women per year are being arrested under this flawed law.
These are stats from the NCRB.
Saturday, May 29, 2010
No divorce even for Rs 65 lakh
http://www.deccanherald.com/content/72007/no-divorce-even-rs-65.html
The Supreme Court has refused to grant divorce to a Bangalore-based couple before the mandatory six-month gestation period, despite both parties agreeing to part ways through mutual consent and the husband offering his spouse a Rs 65-lakh settlement.
“Taking note of a number of earlier cases, where a decree of divorce had been granted by mutual consent by the court without awaiting the expiry of the statutory period of six months, it was held that neither the civil courts nor the high courts can pass orders before the period (6 months) prescribed in Section 13-B(2) of the Act expired,’’ said the Bench of Justices D K Jain and C K Prasad.
While refusing to use Article 142 of the Indian Constitution, which provides the Supreme Court special power to ignore the law, the Bench refused to grant an instant decree of divorce to Neeti and Rakesh Malviya, who have been facing matrimonial dispute before a Bangalore family court for the past 3 years.
The Bench referred the matter to Chief Justice S H Kapadia for constituting a 3-judge Bench to decide the question of law “whether the period prescribed in sub-section (2) of Section 13-B of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, can be waived or reduced by this court in exercise of its jurisdiction under Article 142 of the Constitution.” Neeti had approached the Supreme Court for transfer of the divorce case from Bangalore to another court in Madhya Pradesh.
The couple, during their appearance before the Supreme Court on September 6, 2008, had agreed to go for mediation at the Delhi High Court Mediation Centre. Both parties had reported to the apex court that they had arrived at a settlement and according to the agreement, Rakesh would pay Rs 65 lakh to Neeti for filing divorce on mutual consent.
The agreement of settlement was filed before the Supreme Court Lok Adalat on April 25, 2009, for approval, before granting the decree of divorce. However, on May 10, 2010, the advocates of one of the parties cited some judgments pronounced earlier by the Supreme Court and said the mandatory 6- month period after filing the petition for divorce on mutual consent could not be waived or reduced by the apex court.
The Supreme Court has refused to grant divorce to a Bangalore-based couple before the mandatory six-month gestation period, despite both parties agreeing to part ways through mutual consent and the husband offering his spouse a Rs 65-lakh settlement.
“Taking note of a number of earlier cases, where a decree of divorce had been granted by mutual consent by the court without awaiting the expiry of the statutory period of six months, it was held that neither the civil courts nor the high courts can pass orders before the period (6 months) prescribed in Section 13-B(2) of the Act expired,’’ said the Bench of Justices D K Jain and C K Prasad.
While refusing to use Article 142 of the Indian Constitution, which provides the Supreme Court special power to ignore the law, the Bench refused to grant an instant decree of divorce to Neeti and Rakesh Malviya, who have been facing matrimonial dispute before a Bangalore family court for the past 3 years.
The Bench referred the matter to Chief Justice S H Kapadia for constituting a 3-judge Bench to decide the question of law “whether the period prescribed in sub-section (2) of Section 13-B of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, can be waived or reduced by this court in exercise of its jurisdiction under Article 142 of the Constitution.” Neeti had approached the Supreme Court for transfer of the divorce case from Bangalore to another court in Madhya Pradesh.
The couple, during their appearance before the Supreme Court on September 6, 2008, had agreed to go for mediation at the Delhi High Court Mediation Centre. Both parties had reported to the apex court that they had arrived at a settlement and according to the agreement, Rakesh would pay Rs 65 lakh to Neeti for filing divorce on mutual consent.
The agreement of settlement was filed before the Supreme Court Lok Adalat on April 25, 2009, for approval, before granting the decree of divorce. However, on May 10, 2010, the advocates of one of the parties cited some judgments pronounced earlier by the Supreme Court and said the mandatory 6- month period after filing the petition for divorce on mutual consent could not be waived or reduced by the apex court.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Mediation Center
Experience at Mediation Center.
498A family with 2 Advocates and 3 mediators = Total 8 people on round table.
Me alone.
Mediator to Wife: Bolo ji ,what ur problem?
Wife: my problem is Bla bla bla and I was silent and smiling.
Mediator to me: what's ur problem
Me: I have no problem, she has listen to her.
Wife : Bla bla bla - he is harassing me , has girlfriends, his girlfriends spy me, beat me and he is filling false complaints against me and my family members bla bla bla
Mediator to me: aap pareshaan nahin hote legal fight se.
Me: See my face, see my smile, do u see notice glow on my face....I 'm very happy.
Mediator: How come ?
Me: I thanks my wife to change my outlook to see this world. Now I don't trust any one and do any thing with caution and deep study professionally and personally.
This has helped me achieving high in my professional career. I take this challenge and have learning at young age and I'm sure it will take me to heights with little risk of me going to jail.But if there is no risk I will not make huge profits.
5 min later Mediator asked all to get out of room: Left me, spouse and 3 mediators.
Legal score Board discussion
Mediator to wife what all cases u filed.
Wife: 1. 498A with DP 3/4
2. Crpc 125 maintenance.
3. 406 read with DP6.
Mediator to Wife: and ur husband.
Wife: 1. TEP with IT
2. Vigilance enquiry for my parents.
3. 100s of RTI (she brought the copy of RTI also), CIC etc etc. information
4. DP 3 read with section 388
5. Civil Recovery suit
6. One more civil recovery suit.
7. Criminal complaint u/s 138 of NI Act.
8. FIR u/s 323,504,506, 427
9. GWA- child Custody
10. He has sent notice to shop owners and planning to case under 420 etc.
Wife: For just 3 true cases he filled 10 false case on me and my family including my Jija and sister.
Me: *Blushing Badly* Water in my eyes...all faces became blurrrrrrrrr
Mediator: what you want ?
Wife: I don't want to live with him any more. I want peace and want to live with my child.
Mediator to me: what u want ?
Me: She has three door
No.1 : Keep fighting
2. Live with me
3. Mutually divorce apart Let her choose any.
Mediator to me: which door u choose?
Me: I don't have to choose any door I'm standing on the other side of door to welcome her, hold her hand any take here some where...what ever door she choose she will find me only.
Mediator to me: how come she will find u if she opts to choose door no 3 and mutually divorce.
Me: Bcos she has my baby..and has to give access to her and unfortunately has to see me face .
Mediator : EXCLAMATION MARK !!!
Mediator to Wife: what you choose.
wife: Don't want to stay with him...divorce.
Mediator to me: pamper her...give some time to her, thoda daro isse and life together I would pray. Kya khete ho...
Me: I prefer that she choses Door 1 and keep fighting bcos I'm enjoying it and its very easy for me.2nd I prefer she chooses to be apart as friend bcos if either has custody of child , unfortunately has to see each other face...mutually apart as friend only will be good.I find door 2 to be difficult and making relations from scratch will be very tedious job and I find it difficult to build which has not gains in life. Even if I try I don't take guarantee of my parents whom she has falsely implicated by misuse of dowry and other related cases. I will not scramble to Legal Terrorism.
Mediator: If she opts for divorce she you have to give her some thing.
Me: she is independent smart lady earning XX Lakhs per year and also I built her a house.
Mediator : What's ur earning ?
Me: Nothing I lost every thing in this battle...
Mediator phir bhi?
Me: Same as hers.
Wife: No his earning is huge..he is XXXXXXXX in a MNC he is Big Boss.
Mediator: Will you give her 1 Crore for divorce.
Me: Yes.
Mediator: Very good..
Me: But Sir, Unfortunately I don't have money, house, peace, children etc..nothing to give ..I will give her 1 crore, help me selling my kidney O+ for 1 crore and buyer pays her directly.
Mediators: Exclamation Mark !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mediators : I think you both are confused.....I give you one month decide what you want and else mediation fails.
Me: I said ok..she has my all phone number.. give me a call for cuppa at Barista or café to come to settlement terms.
Mediator to wife: Do you have his numbers.
Wife: smiling yes !!
Mediator to me: How about you do you have her no.??
Me: I only bought her no. and cell.
All : Laughing !!!!!
Mediator : how do u know she still has same no. and cell with her.
Me: She can't opt to loose old things and beggars are not choosers.
Mediators: *Bad face ** Mediation adjourned see ya after one month.
498A family with 2 Advocates and 3 mediators = Total 8 people on round table.
Me alone.
Mediator to Wife: Bolo ji ,what ur problem?
Wife: my problem is Bla bla bla and I was silent and smiling.
Mediator to me: what's ur problem
Me: I have no problem, she has listen to her.
Wife : Bla bla bla - he is harassing me , has girlfriends, his girlfriends spy me, beat me and he is filling false complaints against me and my family members bla bla bla
Mediator to me: aap pareshaan nahin hote legal fight se.
Me: See my face, see my smile, do u see notice glow on my face....I 'm very happy.
Mediator: How come ?
Me: I thanks my wife to change my outlook to see this world. Now I don't trust any one and do any thing with caution and deep study professionally and personally.
This has helped me achieving high in my professional career. I take this challenge and have learning at young age and I'm sure it will take me to heights with little risk of me going to jail.But if there is no risk I will not make huge profits.
5 min later Mediator asked all to get out of room: Left me, spouse and 3 mediators.
Legal score Board discussion
Mediator to wife what all cases u filed.
Wife: 1. 498A with DP 3/4
2. Crpc 125 maintenance.
3. 406 read with DP6.
Mediator to Wife: and ur husband.
Wife: 1. TEP with IT
2. Vigilance enquiry for my parents.
3. 100s of RTI (she brought the copy of RTI also), CIC etc etc. information
4. DP 3 read with section 388
5. Civil Recovery suit
6. One more civil recovery suit.
7. Criminal complaint u/s 138 of NI Act.
8. FIR u/s 323,504,506, 427
9. GWA- child Custody
10. He has sent notice to shop owners and planning to case under 420 etc.
Wife: For just 3 true cases he filled 10 false case on me and my family including my Jija and sister.
Me: *Blushing Badly* Water in my eyes...all faces became blurrrrrrrrr
Mediator: what you want ?
Wife: I don't want to live with him any more. I want peace and want to live with my child.
Mediator to me: what u want ?
Me: She has three door
No.1 : Keep fighting
2. Live with me
3. Mutually divorce apart Let her choose any.
Mediator to me: which door u choose?
Me: I don't have to choose any door I'm standing on the other side of door to welcome her, hold her hand any take here some where...what ever door she choose she will find me only.
Mediator to me: how come she will find u if she opts to choose door no 3 and mutually divorce.
Me: Bcos she has my baby..and has to give access to her and unfortunately has to see me face .
Mediator : EXCLAMATION MARK !!!
Mediator to Wife: what you choose.
wife: Don't want to stay with him...divorce.
Mediator to me: pamper her...give some time to her, thoda daro isse and life together I would pray. Kya khete ho...
Me: I prefer that she choses Door 1 and keep fighting bcos I'm enjoying it and its very easy for me.2nd I prefer she chooses to be apart as friend bcos if either has custody of child , unfortunately has to see each other face...mutually apart as friend only will be good.I find door 2 to be difficult and making relations from scratch will be very tedious job and I find it difficult to build which has not gains in life. Even if I try I don't take guarantee of my parents whom she has falsely implicated by misuse of dowry and other related cases. I will not scramble to Legal Terrorism.
Mediator: If she opts for divorce she you have to give her some thing.
Me: she is independent smart lady earning XX Lakhs per year and also I built her a house.
Mediator : What's ur earning ?
Me: Nothing I lost every thing in this battle...
Mediator phir bhi?
Me: Same as hers.
Wife: No his earning is huge..he is XXXXXXXX in a MNC he is Big Boss.
Mediator: Will you give her 1 Crore for divorce.
Me: Yes.
Mediator: Very good..
Me: But Sir, Unfortunately I don't have money, house, peace, children etc..nothing to give ..I will give her 1 crore, help me selling my kidney O+ for 1 crore and buyer pays her directly.
Mediators: Exclamation Mark !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mediators : I think you both are confused.....I give you one month decide what you want and else mediation fails.
Me: I said ok..she has my all phone number.. give me a call for cuppa at Barista or café to come to settlement terms.
Mediator to wife: Do you have his numbers.
Wife: smiling yes !!
Mediator to me: How about you do you have her no.??
Me: I only bought her no. and cell.
All : Laughing !!!!!
Mediator : how do u know she still has same no. and cell with her.
Me: She can't opt to loose old things and beggars are not choosers.
Mediators: *Bad face ** Mediation adjourned see ya after one month.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Men's Welfare Ministry
Saturday, 22 May 2010 16:58
In the last twelve years (1996 - 2008) 170,000 husbands have been claimed by rampant domestic violence against them. In a shocking revelation of suicide statistics for the year 2008 reveals that almost double the number of married men have committed suicide in comparison to married women as the report attached here corroborates. It states that in the year 2008 57,639 married men committed suicide in comparison to 30,224 married women whereas the same figures for the years 2007 57593 and 30,064, 2006 are 55,452 and 29,869 and for 2005 are 52,483 and 28,188.
While there has been a lot of hue and cry for domestic violence against women with various studies being sponsored for studying the same with tax payers' money 82% of which comes from men, but sadly enough no study has ever been done in India for studying the prevalence, effects and trends of domestic violence against men or the statistics about it. International studies world over have proved that both men and women are equally likely to be victims of domestic violence, but unfortunately the Indian government has closed its doors very brutally on the men leaving them to fend for themselves on their own. Even the courts have an anti - men and a step - motherly attitude towards men what with the Honorable Delhi High Court observing, "Though men are victims of violence, such incidences are few and far between, thus ruling out the possibility of protection from the parliament", while dismissing a petition challenging the constitutionality of the Domestic Violence Act as it violates Article 14 of the Indian Constitution.
Although no studies have been done for studying domestic violence against men, yet the National Crime Records Bureau in its analysis of suicide data for year 2008 and the decade 1998 - 2008 has come up with some heart - rendering revelations. It has published that almost 24% of suicides are directly due to domestic dispute, family problems and related stress. In the year 2008 57639 married men committed suicide 24% of which works close to 13833 husbands. Further as per, Domestic Violence Claims 156,000 husbands, 156,000 husbands have committed suicide in the eleven years from 1996 - 2007 directly due to Domestic Violence. Adding the numbers of 2008, the final numbers for 1996 - 2008 stand at close to 170,000.
Yes, 170,000 husbands have succumbed to Domestic Violence in 12 years with a yearly average of 14,166 and yet the Govt. and the society are not only silent about it but also silently laughing at it.
Do our men deserve such a treatment?
Do we not need men's welfare ministry?
In the last twelve years (1996 - 2008) 170,000 husbands have been claimed by rampant domestic violence against them. In a shocking revelation of suicide statistics for the year 2008 reveals that almost double the number of married men have committed suicide in comparison to married women as the report attached here corroborates. It states that in the year 2008 57,639 married men committed suicide in comparison to 30,224 married women whereas the same figures for the years 2007 57593 and 30,064, 2006 are 55,452 and 29,869 and for 2005 are 52,483 and 28,188.
While there has been a lot of hue and cry for domestic violence against women with various studies being sponsored for studying the same with tax payers' money 82% of which comes from men, but sadly enough no study has ever been done in India for studying the prevalence, effects and trends of domestic violence against men or the statistics about it. International studies world over have proved that both men and women are equally likely to be victims of domestic violence, but unfortunately the Indian government has closed its doors very brutally on the men leaving them to fend for themselves on their own. Even the courts have an anti - men and a step - motherly attitude towards men what with the Honorable Delhi High Court observing, "Though men are victims of violence, such incidences are few and far between, thus ruling out the possibility of protection from the parliament", while dismissing a petition challenging the constitutionality of the Domestic Violence Act as it violates Article 14 of the Indian Constitution.
Although no studies have been done for studying domestic violence against men, yet the National Crime Records Bureau in its analysis of suicide data for year 2008 and the decade 1998 - 2008 has come up with some heart - rendering revelations. It has published that almost 24% of suicides are directly due to domestic dispute, family problems and related stress. In the year 2008 57639 married men committed suicide 24% of which works close to 13833 husbands. Further as per, Domestic Violence Claims 156,000 husbands, 156,000 husbands have committed suicide in the eleven years from 1996 - 2007 directly due to Domestic Violence. Adding the numbers of 2008, the final numbers for 1996 - 2008 stand at close to 170,000.
Yes, 170,000 husbands have succumbed to Domestic Violence in 12 years with a yearly average of 14,166 and yet the Govt. and the society are not only silent about it but also silently laughing at it.
Do our men deserve such a treatment?
Do we not need men's welfare ministry?
Monday, May 10, 2010
Symptoms of 498a wife- Start to take precautions
If your wife/her family is displaying a combination of these behaviors, then you may have a potential 498A mis user on your hands.
1.Family:Is newly-rich; Likes to show-off (their house/cars/paintings/relatives/ connections, etc.);
Related to politicians/bureaucrats/lawyers/judges/police officers; has a history of filing cases against anybody and everybody (search the website of the courts in their State of residence); Beats up its employees; Lives beyond its means; Mother's face cannot be seen beneath the layers of cosmetics; Father acts like a 'Brown Sahib'; Girl/her sister has been in more than one previous relationship, etc.
2. A push for a quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've/We've never felt loved like this by anyone/or so close to anybody." An Abusive woman/her family pressures the man/his family for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
3. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly: prevents you from going to work because 'you might meet someone;" smells your jacket for perfume residue, checks your shirt collar for lipstick marks and goes through your pant pockets.
4. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; wants her name on all your assets/control all the money.
5. Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect man and meet her and her family's every need.
6. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your well wishers of "causing trouble."
7. Blames others for problems and mistakes: The boss/the employee, her ex-boyfriend/ ex-husband, it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.
8. Makes everyone else responsible for her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry instead of, "I am angry' or, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you." Less obvious is the claim "You make me happy."
9. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming that her feelings are hurt when she is really mad. She'll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.
10. Cruelty to animals and to children: Kills, maims (e.g., tears the wings off a butterfly) or punishes Animals brutally (e.g., by kicking them till they bleed). Also may expect children to do things that
are far beyond their ability (makes an 18 month old stand in a corner or whips a 2-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.
11. "Playful" use of coercion during s*x: Enjoys initiating and controlling s*x, stimulating herself and teasing; asks about your s*xual fantasies.
12. Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes you/your family, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things; disgraces, curses, calls you/your family ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse.
13. Rigid s*x roles: Expects you to serve and obey her/her family.
14. Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a trotter of minutes or even more confusing, within seconds. You feel as you are walking on "eggshells" around her.
15. Past behavior: May not actually admit to hitting men in the past (but may write it in her journal/diary and says they made her do it or the situation brought in on).
16. Threats: Makes statements like, "My parents will support me even if I murder someone," or "A woman is always right/the system should always believe the woman" or "I will cut you up the way a fisherman slices fish" and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really
Mean it." If she has come this far, it is time to get help and get out!
1.Family:Is newly-rich; Likes to show-off (their house/cars/paintings/relatives/ connections, etc.);
Related to politicians/bureaucrats/lawyers/judges/police officers; has a history of filing cases against anybody and everybody (search the website of the courts in their State of residence); Beats up its employees; Lives beyond its means; Mother's face cannot be seen beneath the layers of cosmetics; Father acts like a 'Brown Sahib'; Girl/her sister has been in more than one previous relationship, etc.
2. A push for a quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "I've/We've never felt loved like this by anyone/or so close to anybody." An Abusive woman/her family pressures the man/his family for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.
3. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly: prevents you from going to work because 'you might meet someone;" smells your jacket for perfume residue, checks your shirt collar for lipstick marks and goes through your pant pockets.
4. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you're late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; wants her name on all your assets/control all the money.
5. Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect man and meet her and her family's every need.
6. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your well wishers of "causing trouble."
7. Blames others for problems and mistakes: The boss/the employee, her ex-boyfriend/ ex-husband, it's always someone else's fault if anything goes wrong.
8. Makes everyone else responsible for her feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry instead of, "I am angry' or, "You're hurting me by not doing what I tell you." Less obvious is the claim "You make me happy."
9. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming that her feelings are hurt when she is really mad. She'll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.
10. Cruelty to animals and to children: Kills, maims (e.g., tears the wings off a butterfly) or punishes Animals brutally (e.g., by kicking them till they bleed). Also may expect children to do things that
are far beyond their ability (makes an 18 month old stand in a corner or whips a 2-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.
11. "Playful" use of coercion during s*x: Enjoys initiating and controlling s*x, stimulating herself and teasing; asks about your s*xual fantasies.
12. Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes you/your family, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things; disgraces, curses, calls you/your family ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse.
13. Rigid s*x roles: Expects you to serve and obey her/her family.
14. Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a trotter of minutes or even more confusing, within seconds. You feel as you are walking on "eggshells" around her.
15. Past behavior: May not actually admit to hitting men in the past (but may write it in her journal/diary and says they made her do it or the situation brought in on).
16. Threats: Makes statements like, "My parents will support me even if I murder someone," or "A woman is always right/the system should always believe the woman" or "I will cut you up the way a fisherman slices fish" and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really
Mean it." If she has come this far, it is time to get help and get out!
Friday, April 9, 2010
Pre- 498a Steps
If you fear/know that a flase 498a complaint is going to be put on you :-
•Immediately file the RCR, if your wife is separated from you(Restitution of Conjugal rights is like saying” I want my wife back(who deserted me), but with the following conditions"- but since the wife's intention itself is wrong, she won't be able to agree to those conditions(u can even make the conditions more difficult and impossible, to make sure that she will not come back) , it is similar to divorce petition only thing the prayer the same will be asking court your safety , avoid harassment , blackmailing .
•File a police complaint mentioning Blackmailing, threat for false dowry case, or any other thing you have the evidence for. Do not forget to mention that she had left the house after taking a lot of jewelry and cash in your absence, as the case may be.
•Recording all the conversion if any(telephone recording devices, or miniature recording devices when in person discussions happen).
•File a criminal case in court under 156(3) under read cr. procedure 200 , with reference to police complain .(these are sections in the Code of Criminal procedure(Cr. P.C in short), 1973, reproduced alongside: Cr.P.C Sections 156. Police officer's power to investigate cognizable case
(1) Any officer in charge of a police station may, without the order of a Magistrate, investigate any cognizable case which a Court having jurisdiction over the local area within the limits of such station would have power to inquire into or try under the provisions of Chapter XIII.
(2) No proceeding of a police officer in any such case shall at any stage be called in question on the ground that the case was one which such officer was not empowered under this section to investigate.
(3) Any Magistrate empowered under section 190 may order such an investigation as above-mentioned 200. Examination of complainant
A Magistrate taking cognizance of an offence on complaint shall examine upon oath the complainant and the witnesses present, if any, and the substance of such examination shall be reduced to writing and shall be signed by the complainant and the witnesses, and also by the Magistrate:
Provided that, when the complaint is made in writing, the Magistrate need not examine the complainant and the witnesses-
(a) if a public servant acting or purporting to act in the discharge of his official duties or a Court has made the complaint; or
(b) if the Magistrate makes over the case for inquiry or trial to another Magistrate under section 192:
Provided further that if the Magistrate makes over the case to another Magistrate under section 192 after examining the complainant and the witnesses, the latter Magistrate need not re-examine them.
•Take the certified copy from the court and keep with you.
Now just relax and whenever you come any place for discussion, just submit the court petition and say whatever you feel right do it, they are the criminals, you are not.
This will definitely ensure easier bail for 498A , which is the main problem .
•Immediately file the RCR, if your wife is separated from you(Restitution of Conjugal rights is like saying” I want my wife back(who deserted me), but with the following conditions"- but since the wife's intention itself is wrong, she won't be able to agree to those conditions(u can even make the conditions more difficult and impossible, to make sure that she will not come back) , it is similar to divorce petition only thing the prayer the same will be asking court your safety , avoid harassment , blackmailing .
•File a police complaint mentioning Blackmailing, threat for false dowry case, or any other thing you have the evidence for. Do not forget to mention that she had left the house after taking a lot of jewelry and cash in your absence, as the case may be.
•Recording all the conversion if any(telephone recording devices, or miniature recording devices when in person discussions happen).
•File a criminal case in court under 156(3) under read cr. procedure 200 , with reference to police complain .(these are sections in the Code of Criminal procedure(Cr. P.C in short), 1973, reproduced alongside: Cr.P.C Sections 156. Police officer's power to investigate cognizable case
(1) Any officer in charge of a police station may, without the order of a Magistrate, investigate any cognizable case which a Court having jurisdiction over the local area within the limits of such station would have power to inquire into or try under the provisions of Chapter XIII.
(2) No proceeding of a police officer in any such case shall at any stage be called in question on the ground that the case was one which such officer was not empowered under this section to investigate.
(3) Any Magistrate empowered under section 190 may order such an investigation as above-mentioned 200. Examination of complainant
A Magistrate taking cognizance of an offence on complaint shall examine upon oath the complainant and the witnesses present, if any, and the substance of such examination shall be reduced to writing and shall be signed by the complainant and the witnesses, and also by the Magistrate:
Provided that, when the complaint is made in writing, the Magistrate need not examine the complainant and the witnesses-
(a) if a public servant acting or purporting to act in the discharge of his official duties or a Court has made the complaint; or
(b) if the Magistrate makes over the case for inquiry or trial to another Magistrate under section 192:
Provided further that if the Magistrate makes over the case to another Magistrate under section 192 after examining the complainant and the witnesses, the latter Magistrate need not re-examine them.
•Take the certified copy from the court and keep with you.
Now just relax and whenever you come any place for discussion, just submit the court petition and say whatever you feel right do it, they are the criminals, you are not.
This will definitely ensure easier bail for 498A , which is the main problem .
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Ayesha settle at 15 crores
Great women, without Showing her face, Misused 498a and done extrotion of Rs 15crores & stelled with the Divorce? Jai Bharat Mata
http://www.mid-day.com/news/2010/apr/080410-Ayesha-Fareesa-Siddiqui-press-conference-Shoaib-Malik-divorced.htm
Although mediators, who struck the compromise between Shoaib and Ayesha,
have said the amount of nufqah is Rs 15,000 in public, sources revealed that
the deal was struck only when Shoaib agreed to pay up an, as yet unknown,
amount that is believed to be not less than Rs 15 crore
http://movies.indiatimes.com/news-gossip/news/Shoaib-Ayesha-settle-at-15-crores/articleshow/5773239.cms
Even if Ayesha only wanted a divorce and thats why she filed IPC 498a, its sheer legal terrorism, when she was never subjected to cruelty which would lead to loss of life or limb(definition of 498a) by her own admission, and hence she had no right to concoct IPC 498a on Shoaib(irrespective of whether marriage happened or not).
Monday, March 8, 2010
Chemical Analysis of Women
Chemical Analysis of Women
ELEMENT : WOMAN
Symbol : WO+
Discoverer : Adam Edenwarden
Atomic mass : Accepted as 53.6 kg, isotopes vary
from 40 - 200kg
Occurrence : Copious quantities in all urban areas
PHYSICAL PROPERTIES:
1.. Surface usually covered with thin film of make-up.
2. Boils at room temperature.
3. Freezes without any known reason.
4. Melts if given special treatment..
5. Bitter if incorrectly used.
CHEMICAL PROPERTIES:
1. Have great affinity for gold, silver and a range of precious stones and absorbs great quantities of expensive substances.
2. May explode spontaneously without prior warning and for no known reason.
3. Most powerful money reducing agent known to man.
COMMON USES:
Highly ornamental, especially in social gatherings.
TESTS:
1. Pure specimen turns rosy pink when happy.
2. Turns pale green when placed beside a better specimen.
POTENTIAL HAZARDS:
1. Highly dangerous except in experienced hands.
2. Illegal to possess more than one, although several can be maintained at different locations as long as specimens do not come into direct contact with each other.
WARNING!!!!
PROLONGED EXPOSURE TO THIS ELEMENT CAN CAUSE SEVERE FINANCIAL HEMORRHAGING
AND MENTAL DISTRESS. BE CAUTIOUS.....!!!!
ELEMENT : WOMAN
Symbol : WO+
Discoverer : Adam Edenwarden
Atomic mass : Accepted as 53.6 kg, isotopes vary
from 40 - 200kg
Occurrence : Copious quantities in all urban areas
PHYSICAL PROPERTIES:
1.. Surface usually covered with thin film of make-up.
2. Boils at room temperature.
3. Freezes without any known reason.
4. Melts if given special treatment..
5. Bitter if incorrectly used.
CHEMICAL PROPERTIES:
1. Have great affinity for gold, silver and a range of precious stones and absorbs great quantities of expensive substances.
2. May explode spontaneously without prior warning and for no known reason.
3. Most powerful money reducing agent known to man.
COMMON USES:
Highly ornamental, especially in social gatherings.
TESTS:
1. Pure specimen turns rosy pink when happy.
2. Turns pale green when placed beside a better specimen.
POTENTIAL HAZARDS:
1. Highly dangerous except in experienced hands.
2. Illegal to possess more than one, although several can be maintained at different locations as long as specimens do not come into direct contact with each other.
WARNING!!!!
PROLONGED EXPOSURE TO THIS ELEMENT CAN CAUSE SEVERE FINANCIAL HEMORRHAGING
AND MENTAL DISTRESS. BE CAUTIOUS.....!!!!
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