Dear Friends,
Yes, this may be a peculiar question,at a stage when I should have been given u moral support,but no i will not.
This is our fight,its not urs ,its not mine.I am not fighting a case against my wife,I am fighting against the misuse. Our law also states that its a fight against the state where your case is running.
Every week, I come across many simillar cases as yours and mine. The story line is same only actors and their dialouges have some changes.
Does that mean we have to suffer?
Does that mean that there is no options left?
Does that means that our life is a gone case?
Does that mean that i donot have a life and i simply have to surrender?
My Answer is : A BIG NO
I am a honest human being,just caught in a bad situation.Somewhere I read a wonderfull story and would like to share that with u all ” once there was a great comedian.So people called him to a village where everyone was very sad.This was a place where everyone is unhappy.The comedian went to the stage and saw the public.It was a huge crowd.So he delivered his best joke ever.Everyone started laughed their hearts out.He then again repeated the same joke,some people again laughed,he went on repeating his same joke till nobody was laghing.Then he asked the audiance WHEN SAME JOKE CANNOT MAKE U LAUGH MORE THAN ONCE THEN WHY IS SAME SADNESS IS MAKING U CRY EVERY TIME.”
Thats what I am exactly saying.
we are not criminals but we all had done some mistakes for which we deserve a false 498a case on us.
1.we did a big mistake. by marrying to such a family(i am not saying girl intentionally) ,yes in india we get married to a family.most of us never investigated well about the in-laws before marriage.
2.we believed our wife more than our friends and relatives.we shared with them our bank details which are not even known to our parents.yes we dis this mistake
3. we loved her so much that we never noticed that she is planning a 498a,that she is planning to make us henpecked husband and we never noticed that she is behaving strangely.
4. We never verified about her background and believed her blindly.
5. we counted her family members as our own family member.
so you now what i mean by why we deserve a 498a case
but there are many more things for which we deserve a misuse of 498a
A) people like u and me bend down to their knees in front of the girl to finish the cases.do u do same if someone do rape/murder/burglery/cheating/false allegations /abuse/manhandling with some one of your family member.no u donot.u fight till u can.If some one come and take away ur house will u simply set back? no u will fight back to getit back.
but we donot have a value for selfrespect,so what if we were in jail for a week,so what the girl has abused the system,so what we were branded” dahej ke bhooke bheriyee”,we just want to settle.
its not abt 1 rupee or 10 lack rupees.
A very good friend of mine asked the other day ,buddy my wife is asking only 4 lakh,should i give her and finish the case.yes buddy go ahead plzzzzzzzz, this is due to u people bending before the wrong demands ,girls are getting dare to file cases against us.
either u do pay and accept that the allegations are true and u a coward, or just fight.i know many will agree wit noth my view,but thats truth.there is no second thought.
B) we still believe and hate the girl.no friends its not,its the law which has provision to be misused.so your fight should be against the cause not the person who is misusing it.she is just another misuser,like we should curd the causes of roberry,but should punish the wrond doers.
just feel this feeling.forgive her but donot forget her.she has done no wrong by invoking a wrong loophole of law to make easy money.stop the misuse first.
hate is also a feeling,donot have any feelings for them.
revege is the only true emotion—– as per shrimad bhagwat Gita.
so the only feeling should be revenge and that too by legally trapping her in the wrong that she has done for u and ur family.
C> there is general feeling that life has come to an end.no we are not criminals,we have a life,we have right to laugh,we have a right to enjoy.be what may.what can she get,a little maintainace,think that u are giving a begger some money to sustain her life.still u will be left with something ,u can grow and earn more.so enjoy,there are other things in this world rather than thinking abt her.make yourself better.
and at last just a line from ravindra nath tagore
“jodi tor daak sune kau na aase tahole akla cholo ray”
meaning; if by listen to u also nobody is comming with u,then go and do it yourself and fight out the battle.
donot lose hope,there are many like u. you are not only a chosen one.do u feel shame to tell your neighbours that the milkman has cheated u by mixing water in milk? so is this case.
this is nothing but a cold and coough which runs a little longer.just chill and enjoy it
” when rape is unevitable,its better to enjoy it’
always remember there is someone like u who is /was/will be in same conditions as u are today.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Monday, May 9, 2011
7th May - Dharna in Bengaluru against Unjustified Maintenance/Alimony
7th May - Dharna in Bengaluru against Unjustified Maintenance/Alimony
We have organized dharna with theme being protest against "Intimate Terrorism and Family Terrorism" on 7th May, Sat from 10 am to 1:30 pm in front of Town Hall, near Corporation Circle in Bangalore.
All are welcome to join. Be there with family, friends, relatives, neighbours. I got to know one of my neighbors got screwed recently and his wife left him after doing usual tamasha and packing up things in his absence and went to her mother's house. Get in touch with all people you know and you will find at least 2 people who are going through something similar but not aware of SIF. Of course if you don't share with people about your life then people won't be aware even of YOUR case.
It is known experience in Bangalore that people who protest and do activism, keep winning their cases. They actually end up taking money from other side during settlement (on paper it looks as if they paid though but they have stuff from other side already).
Those who are too ashamed to protest, or want to hide, or want to stand far away from others even get their maintenance increased from 15K to 30K.
We have organized dharna with theme being protest against "Intimate Terrorism and Family Terrorism" on 7th May, Sat from 10 am to 1:30 pm in front of Town Hall, near Corporation Circle in Bangalore.
All are welcome to join. Be there with family, friends, relatives, neighbours. I got to know one of my neighbors got screwed recently and his wife left him after doing usual tamasha and packing up things in his absence and went to her mother's house. Get in touch with all people you know and you will find at least 2 people who are going through something similar but not aware of SIF. Of course if you don't share with people about your life then people won't be aware even of YOUR case.
It is known experience in Bangalore that people who protest and do activism, keep winning their cases. They actually end up taking money from other side during settlement (on paper it looks as if they paid though but they have stuff from other side already).
Those who are too ashamed to protest, or want to hide, or want to stand far away from others even get their maintenance increased from 15K to 30K.
Court lets agent utter 'talaq' on man's behalf
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Court-lets-agent-utter-talaq-on-mans-behalf/articleshow/8200761.cms
NEW DELHI: In a twist to the triple talaq rule, a city court has upheld the divorce sought by a man who had appointed an agent to pronounce 'divorce' on his behalf since he himself could not utter the words in Arabic.
The court said Shia Muslim personal law allows a man to obtain talaq under these circumstance.
Upholding the legality of the divorce given by one Sabir Hussain, additional district judge Reetesh Singh said the "respondent (Hussain) has duly proved that he had obtained divorce from the appellant as prescribed under Shia Muslim law".
Sabir's wife Mumtaz had contended that to secure divorce under the Shia Muslim law, 'talaq' should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband himself. The court dismissed her plea on the ground that Sabir could not speak Arabic.
Sabir was married to Mumtaz in 1992. The couple lived in Brahmpuri, northeast Delhi, and have two sons and a daughter. In 2005, Sabir divorced Mumtaz alleging that she had treated him cruelly and kept calling the police while making bogus allegations against him and his family. A certificate of divorce was issued by Mansabia Arabic College, Meerut, Uttar Pradesh. Mumtaz moved the trial court contending that since no notice was served intimating her of the divorce, it was not valid under the Muslim Shia law. The trial court, however, dismissed her plea.
Mumtaz then filed an appeal before the sessions court saying the requirement for a valid divorce under the Shia Muslim Law was that it should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband. In his evidence, Sabir stated that he could read Arabic but was not able to speak the language and so he had appointed an agent, who held a 'fazil' degree, to pronounce divorce on his behalf.
He also produced the agent as a witness to prove his case. Two independent witnesses also identified their signatures on the divorce certificate before the court.
After going through the records and contentions of both parties, the court said that as Sabir could not speak Arabic, he had engaged the services of an agent well-versed in Arabic to pronounce 'talaq' on his behalf, as per the provisions of the Shia law.
NEW DELHI: In a twist to the triple talaq rule, a city court has upheld the divorce sought by a man who had appointed an agent to pronounce 'divorce' on his behalf since he himself could not utter the words in Arabic.
The court said Shia Muslim personal law allows a man to obtain talaq under these circumstance.
Upholding the legality of the divorce given by one Sabir Hussain, additional district judge Reetesh Singh said the "respondent (Hussain) has duly proved that he had obtained divorce from the appellant as prescribed under Shia Muslim law".
Sabir's wife Mumtaz had contended that to secure divorce under the Shia Muslim law, 'talaq' should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband himself. The court dismissed her plea on the ground that Sabir could not speak Arabic.
Sabir was married to Mumtaz in 1992. The couple lived in Brahmpuri, northeast Delhi, and have two sons and a daughter. In 2005, Sabir divorced Mumtaz alleging that she had treated him cruelly and kept calling the police while making bogus allegations against him and his family. A certificate of divorce was issued by Mansabia Arabic College, Meerut, Uttar Pradesh. Mumtaz moved the trial court contending that since no notice was served intimating her of the divorce, it was not valid under the Muslim Shia law. The trial court, however, dismissed her plea.
Mumtaz then filed an appeal before the sessions court saying the requirement for a valid divorce under the Shia Muslim Law was that it should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband. In his evidence, Sabir stated that he could read Arabic but was not able to speak the language and so he had appointed an agent, who held a 'fazil' degree, to pronounce divorce on his behalf.
He also produced the agent as a witness to prove his case. Two independent witnesses also identified their signatures on the divorce certificate before the court.
After going through the records and contentions of both parties, the court said that as Sabir could not speak Arabic, he had engaged the services of an agent well-versed in Arabic to pronounce 'talaq' on his behalf, as per the provisions of the Shia law.
Man calls wife unfaithful, faces jail or Rs 1 L fine
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-05-08/mumbai/29522589_1_mental-cruelty-illicit-relations-conduct
MUMBAI: Levelling baseless allegations of adultery against one's wife amounted to mental cruelty, said the Bombay high court while pronouncing a city resident guilty of the charge.
Justice A R Joshi offered the husband, Nilesh Chauhan, two options: pay Rs 1 lakh as compensation or go to jail.
"Going through the evidence presented by the prosecution witnesses and the allegations made against (the wife), it is definitely a case of mental cruelty on (her)," said the judge. "Needless to say, the conduct of the applicant comes within the purview of Section 498A of Indian Penal Code, so far as mental cruelty is concerned."
MUMBAI: Levelling baseless allegations of adultery against one's wife amounted to mental cruelty, said the Bombay high court while pronouncing a city resident guilty of the charge.
Justice A R Joshi offered the husband, Nilesh Chauhan, two options: pay Rs 1 lakh as compensation or go to jail.
"Going through the evidence presented by the prosecution witnesses and the allegations made against (the wife), it is definitely a case of mental cruelty on (her)," said the judge. "Needless to say, the conduct of the applicant comes within the purview of Section 498A of Indian Penal Code, so far as mental cruelty is concerned."
Minor boy booked under Dowry Act
To,
The Editor,
Deccan Herald.
Bangalore- 1
Dear sir,
I refer to this news article titled,"Minor boy booked under Dowry Act "http://www.deccanherald.com/content/159943/minor-boy-booked-dowry-act.html
The law is heavily in favour of women in the name and garb of gender equality and this is the result of it. I know plenty of cases of severe misuse of the law by wives and women in which the man is living a life of hell. Are men mongrels without any rights? Is gender equality about men being treated as second-class citizens? Today, the Kerala govt. has issued guidelines in which it proudly proclaims that divorce laws are pro-women more than in any other country. It shows how feminist out country has become that we think that anything in favour of women is equality. We fail to understand what gender equality is all about. LAWS HAVE TO BE EQUAL FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AND NOT FAVOUR WOMEN. The govt. should amend all laws to make them gender-neutral and not pro-women. The women are cheating the men in the name of gender equality.
Regards,
The Editor,
Deccan Herald.
Bangalore- 1
Dear sir,
I refer to this news article titled,"Minor boy booked under Dowry Act "http://www.deccanherald.com/content/159943/minor-boy-booked-dowry-act.html
The law is heavily in favour of women in the name and garb of gender equality and this is the result of it. I know plenty of cases of severe misuse of the law by wives and women in which the man is living a life of hell. Are men mongrels without any rights? Is gender equality about men being treated as second-class citizens? Today, the Kerala govt. has issued guidelines in which it proudly proclaims that divorce laws are pro-women more than in any other country. It shows how feminist out country has become that we think that anything in favour of women is equality. We fail to understand what gender equality is all about. LAWS HAVE TO BE EQUAL FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AND NOT FAVOUR WOMEN. The govt. should amend all laws to make them gender-neutral and not pro-women. The women are cheating the men in the name of gender equality.
Regards,
Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages
Dear Sir,
I refer to this news article titled, "Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages"http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Thiruvananthapuram/article2001468.ece
I fail to understand why the Kerala police have issued guidelines only for women as though fraud is committed by only men. There are plenty of women who also commit fraud and men end up in the midst of nowhere. On top of it, the laws being in favour of women [all in the name and garb of gender equality] makes it hell for these victimised men. Its time that men fight for their rights. Its time that the laws are made gender-neutral and NOT pro-women because that is anathema to equality. Equality means equality and not being pro-men or pro-women.
Thanks for understanding Indian men's issues.
Regards,
I refer to this news article titled, "Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages"http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Thiruvananthapuram/article2001468.ece
I fail to understand why the Kerala police have issued guidelines only for women as though fraud is committed by only men. There are plenty of women who also commit fraud and men end up in the midst of nowhere. On top of it, the laws being in favour of women [all in the name and garb of gender equality] makes it hell for these victimised men. Its time that men fight for their rights. Its time that the laws are made gender-neutral and NOT pro-women because that is anathema to equality. Equality means equality and not being pro-men or pro-women.
Thanks for understanding Indian men's issues.
Regards,
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