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India's elderly suffer abuse silently: Help Age report
http://www.hindustantimes.com/India-s-elderly-suffer-abuse-silently-HelpAge-report/Article1-709629.aspx
India has over 90 million elderly persons above the age of 60 years and many of them, silently suffer abuse in the hands of either their daughters-in-law or sons, according to a survey report by HelpAge India.
The study, made public yesterday on the eve of the sixth World Elder Abuse Awareness Day, has found that about 41% felt that there has been an increase in the rate of crime against the elderly in the past three years.
"More than half of India's senior citizens surveyed feel that they are soft targets for crime," the report said.
HelpAge India is a leading humanitarian, development and campaign organisation working with and for older people in India for more than 30 years.
The World Elder Awareness Day evolved from its nascent stage in 1997 initiated by a small group in Australia, to becoming an issue that saw United Nations endorsing and making it a global concern.
At present, the UN recognises elder abuse as a public health and human rights issue.
The grim fact, according to the report, is that 98% of the elderly in India surveyed did not file any official complaint. "This showed that they are silently suffering abuse," it said.
The report found 63% of daughters-in-law as the major abusers of the elderly, followed by the sons (44 per cent).
The HelpAge report said that Delhi NCR region reported the highest (100%) number of the incidences in the hands of daughters-in-law.
The percentage of elderly reporting ownership status of house living is among the lowest in Kolkata (15%).
It said that nearly 52% of the elderly surveyed were illiterate and 66% were financially dependent on others with half of the elderly depending on daughters-in-law for assistance in daily activities.
"A very high 85% of the elders were dependent on others for medical expenditure," it said.
The survey report further revealed that nearly 60% of the elderly consider verbal abuse as elder abuse while 48% felt physical abuse constitutes elder abuse.
"As a result of the current aging scenario, there is a growing need for care of the older persons in terms of social, economic, health and shelter. Security of older persons in India is also emerging as an issue.
"With more old people living longer, the households are getting smaller and congested, causing stress in families and marginalization, isolation and insecurity among older persons," it added.
India has over 90 million elderly persons above the age of 60 years and many of them, silently suffer abuse in the hands of either their daughters-in-law or sons, according to a survey report by HelpAge India.
The study, made public yesterday on the eve of the sixth World Elder Abuse Awareness Day, has found that about 41% felt that there has been an increase in the rate of crime against the elderly in the past three years.
"More than half of India's senior citizens surveyed feel that they are soft targets for crime," the report said.
HelpAge India is a leading humanitarian, development and campaign organisation working with and for older people in India for more than 30 years.
The World Elder Awareness Day evolved from its nascent stage in 1997 initiated by a small group in Australia, to becoming an issue that saw United Nations endorsing and making it a global concern.
At present, the UN recognises elder abuse as a public health and human rights issue.
The grim fact, according to the report, is that 98% of the elderly in India surveyed did not file any official complaint. "This showed that they are silently suffering abuse," it said.
The report found 63% of daughters-in-law as the major abusers of the elderly, followed by the sons (44 per cent).
The HelpAge report said that Delhi NCR region reported the highest (100%) number of the incidences in the hands of daughters-in-law.
The percentage of elderly reporting ownership status of house living is among the lowest in Kolkata (15%).
It said that nearly 52% of the elderly surveyed were illiterate and 66% were financially dependent on others with half of the elderly depending on daughters-in-law for assistance in daily activities.
"A very high 85% of the elders were dependent on others for medical expenditure," it said.
The survey report further revealed that nearly 60% of the elderly consider verbal abuse as elder abuse while 48% felt physical abuse constitutes elder abuse.
"As a result of the current aging scenario, there is a growing need for care of the older persons in terms of social, economic, health and shelter. Security of older persons in India is also emerging as an issue.
"With more old people living longer, the households are getting smaller and congested, causing stress in families and marginalization, isolation and insecurity among older persons," it added.
Daughters-in-law emerge as major abuser of elderly: Study
http://www.aimpf.org/daughters-in-law-emerge-as-major-abuser-of-elderly-study/
Bangalore: Daughters-in-law emerged as the major abuser of the elderly in the lower socio economic strata and sons in the higher socio economic strata, a study said.
The study conducted on “Elder abuse & crime in India” by Helpage India, an NGO working for elderly health care, in nine cities found daughters-in-law to be the major abuser of the elderly (63.4 per cent) followed by the son (44 per cent) from the lower socio economic strata last year.
In the higher socio economic strata, sons topped the abusers at 53.6 per cent, the study conducted in cities, including Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore, said.
The outcome of the study, released by city police commissioner Jyothi Prakash Mirji here on the occasion of “World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, reveals that more than one fifth of the elderly have experienced abuse.
While Bangalore tops elder abuse cases with a shocking 44 per cent, it is closely followed by Hyderabad (38 per cent), Bhopal (30 per cent) and Kolkata (23 per cent), the lowest being Chennai (two per cent).
More than half (51 per cent) of the elderly felt that there has been an increase in the incidents of elder abuse in the last three years, with Bhopal recording the highest (80 per cent), Bangalore (74 per cent) and Chennai the lowest (23 per cent).
Around three fifths of the elderly (57 per cent) reported change in cultural values and lack of economic resources among elderly (56 per cent) as reasons for the increase in incidence of elderly abuse in the past three years, the study said.
While Hyderabad has the highest percentage (84 per cent) of elderly reporting change in cultural values, increase in elder abuse incidents due to “lack of economic resources among the elderly” were reported highest in Kolkatta (79 per cent), Bangalore (77 per cent), Hyderabad (72 per cent) and Delhi (71 per cent).
More than half (52 per cent) of the elderly feel the trend of “nuclear family” as another reason for increase in cases of elder abuse.
According to the study, 19 per cent of India’s elderly feel neglected. Reasons such as “family members are busy in their own lives/work”, “family members do not really interact with them” were voiced.
Forty six per cent of the elderly feel neglected in Bangalore, followed by Hyderabad (37 per cent), Bhopal (30 per cent) and the lowest being Ahmedabad (one per cent).
Mumbai and Bangalore reported the highest percentage of elderly who fear further abuse.
The study was conducted across Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, Kolkata, Bhopal, Chennai, Patna, Hyderabad and Bangalore in a sample size of 900, with 100 elderly per city.
Bangalore: Daughters-in-law emerged as the major abuser of the elderly in the lower socio economic strata and sons in the higher socio economic strata, a study said.
The study conducted on “Elder abuse & crime in India” by Helpage India, an NGO working for elderly health care, in nine cities found daughters-in-law to be the major abuser of the elderly (63.4 per cent) followed by the son (44 per cent) from the lower socio economic strata last year.
In the higher socio economic strata, sons topped the abusers at 53.6 per cent, the study conducted in cities, including Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore, said.
The outcome of the study, released by city police commissioner Jyothi Prakash Mirji here on the occasion of “World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, reveals that more than one fifth of the elderly have experienced abuse.
While Bangalore tops elder abuse cases with a shocking 44 per cent, it is closely followed by Hyderabad (38 per cent), Bhopal (30 per cent) and Kolkata (23 per cent), the lowest being Chennai (two per cent).
More than half (51 per cent) of the elderly felt that there has been an increase in the incidents of elder abuse in the last three years, with Bhopal recording the highest (80 per cent), Bangalore (74 per cent) and Chennai the lowest (23 per cent).
Around three fifths of the elderly (57 per cent) reported change in cultural values and lack of economic resources among elderly (56 per cent) as reasons for the increase in incidence of elderly abuse in the past three years, the study said.
While Hyderabad has the highest percentage (84 per cent) of elderly reporting change in cultural values, increase in elder abuse incidents due to “lack of economic resources among the elderly” were reported highest in Kolkatta (79 per cent), Bangalore (77 per cent), Hyderabad (72 per cent) and Delhi (71 per cent).
More than half (52 per cent) of the elderly feel the trend of “nuclear family” as another reason for increase in cases of elder abuse.
According to the study, 19 per cent of India’s elderly feel neglected. Reasons such as “family members are busy in their own lives/work”, “family members do not really interact with them” were voiced.
Forty six per cent of the elderly feel neglected in Bangalore, followed by Hyderabad (37 per cent), Bhopal (30 per cent) and the lowest being Ahmedabad (one per cent).
Mumbai and Bangalore reported the highest percentage of elderly who fear further abuse.
The study was conducted across Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, Kolkata, Bhopal, Chennai, Patna, Hyderabad and Bangalore in a sample size of 900, with 100 elderly per city.
बेटों से ज्यादा बहुओं से परेशान हैं बुजुर्ग
http://www.patrika.com/news.aspx?id=616255
कोलकाता। बदलते जमान के साथ साथ बुजुर्गो की समस्याएं भी बढ़ती जा रही है। पारिवारिक मूल्यों में आ रही गिरावट के कारण बुजुर्गों के प्रति सम्मान में कमी आती जा रही है। इसी कारण ज्यादातर बुजुर्ग अपने घरों में अपने ही लोगों से परेशान हैं। एक सर्वे के मुताबिक भारत में 60 साल से ऊपर की उम्र वाले 90 लाख बुजुर्ग हैं। इनमें से ज्यादातर अपने बेटों और बहुओं से परेशान हैं।
हेल्प एज इण्डिया की ओर से कराए गए सर्वे के मुताबिक बुजुर्ग बेटों से ज्यादा बहुओं से परेशान हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 44 फीसदी बुजुर्ग बेटों से जबकि 63 फीसदी अपनी बहुओं से परेशान हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 60 फीसदी बुजुर्ग तानों से परेशान हैं जबकि 48 फीसदी के साथ मारपीट भी होती है। सर्वे के अनुसार बुजुर्गो के खिलाफ अपराधों में दिल्ली और एनसीआर सबसे आगे हैं जबकि कोलकाता इस मामले में सबसे पीछे है।
सर्वे के अनुसार 41 फीसदी वरिष्ठ नागरिकों का कहना है कि पिछले तीन साल में बुर्जुगों के खिलाफ होने वाले अपराध में बढ़ोतरी हुई है। आधे से ज्यादा वरिष्ठ नागरिकों का कहना है कि अपराध के लिए वे सॉफ्ट टारगेट होते हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 98 फीसदी बुर्जुग अपने खिलाफ होने वाले अपराध की शिकायत नहीं करते। इससे जाहिर होता है कि वे चुपचाप अपमान सहते रहते हैं।
सर्वे के मुताबिक 52 फीसदी बुजुर्ग अनपढ़ हैं जबकि 66 फीसदी आर्थिक रूप से आत्मनिर्भर हैं। 50 फीसदी बुजुर्ग वित्तीय रूप से अपने बेटों और बहुओं पर निर्भर हैं। जबकि 85 फीसदी अपने इलाज के खर्चे के लिए दूसरों पर निर्भर हैं।
कोलकाता। बदलते जमान के साथ साथ बुजुर्गो की समस्याएं भी बढ़ती जा रही है। पारिवारिक मूल्यों में आ रही गिरावट के कारण बुजुर्गों के प्रति सम्मान में कमी आती जा रही है। इसी कारण ज्यादातर बुजुर्ग अपने घरों में अपने ही लोगों से परेशान हैं। एक सर्वे के मुताबिक भारत में 60 साल से ऊपर की उम्र वाले 90 लाख बुजुर्ग हैं। इनमें से ज्यादातर अपने बेटों और बहुओं से परेशान हैं।
हेल्प एज इण्डिया की ओर से कराए गए सर्वे के मुताबिक बुजुर्ग बेटों से ज्यादा बहुओं से परेशान हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 44 फीसदी बुजुर्ग बेटों से जबकि 63 फीसदी अपनी बहुओं से परेशान हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 60 फीसदी बुजुर्ग तानों से परेशान हैं जबकि 48 फीसदी के साथ मारपीट भी होती है। सर्वे के अनुसार बुजुर्गो के खिलाफ अपराधों में दिल्ली और एनसीआर सबसे आगे हैं जबकि कोलकाता इस मामले में सबसे पीछे है।
सर्वे के अनुसार 41 फीसदी वरिष्ठ नागरिकों का कहना है कि पिछले तीन साल में बुर्जुगों के खिलाफ होने वाले अपराध में बढ़ोतरी हुई है। आधे से ज्यादा वरिष्ठ नागरिकों का कहना है कि अपराध के लिए वे सॉफ्ट टारगेट होते हैं। सर्वे के मुताबिक 98 फीसदी बुर्जुग अपने खिलाफ होने वाले अपराध की शिकायत नहीं करते। इससे जाहिर होता है कि वे चुपचाप अपमान सहते रहते हैं।
सर्वे के मुताबिक 52 फीसदी बुजुर्ग अनपढ़ हैं जबकि 66 फीसदी आर्थिक रूप से आत्मनिर्भर हैं। 50 फीसदी बुजुर्ग वित्तीय रूप से अपने बेटों और बहुओं पर निर्भर हैं। जबकि 85 फीसदी अपने इलाज के खर्चे के लिए दूसरों पर निर्भर हैं।
Study Claims Senior Citizens In Capital Face Physical Abuse
http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Repository/ml.asp?Ref=Q0FQLzIwMTEvMDYvMTUjQXIwMDcwMA%3D%3D
New Delhi: Abuse of the elderly is a relatively new problem. With increasing life-expectancy, there are more elderly people around.
A recent study by HelpAge India, “Elder Abuse and Crime in India”, claims all senior citizens they spoke to in the Capital said they had been verbally abused, while 33% confided they had been physically abused -- often beaten and tied to chairs. The ill-treatment of the elderly has become a serious enough problem to now warrant a “World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, observed across the globe on June 15.
The study, that considered the responses of 900 senior citizens in nine cities, says family members are the chief abusers of the elderly in India and help from outsiders isn’t sought or is not forthcoming.
Ninety-two per cent of Delhi’s elderly citizens are suffering in silence because they are ashamed or afraid to share their experiences. Those who do manage to overcome the shame and fear, confide to neighbours or members of the community. Not an easy task as most abusers are often their own family members. Among the wealthy, it was the son who emerged as “chief abuser”; in the group considered for the 2011 survey, it was the daughter-in-law. However, 22.5% of the elderly in the Capital— the highest figures in the country — are financially dependent on their daughters-in-law to some degree. Delhi, however, had the highest number of senior citizens who owned property with 76% owning a piece of real estate.
“In the last 50 years, our age span has increased by 20 years. But as you advance in age, age-related disabilities appear. These aren’t new but now they’ll continue for a longer period,” says M M Sabharwal, who works with HelpAge.
If these senior citizens are neglected or abused – and all the candidates questioned were – they seem to bear it in silence. There is an acute lack of awareness of laws and faith in law-enforcement agencies. In fact, Delhi’s pensioners are more distrustful of authorities than those in any other city. They can’t be sure whether they will get support from the police or lawyers. And for good reason. The study claims 75% of the few who did take that step – registered a complaint with the police – said they were harassed by the authorities. “Whenever any of us takes an issue to the SHO, we are told there’s not enough staff,” adds J R Gupta, a senior citizen.
“That’s not an acceptable excuse at all,” said joint commissioner (CAW) Nityanandam, who was present at an event where the study was released. He said there were 11,655 senior citizens registered with the Delhi police’s Senior Citizen’s Security Cell.
OLD AND VULNERABLE
Dependent elders need help, mostly to meet medical expenses 100% say they are abused by daughter-in-law; 50% are abused by son
100% face verbal abuse 92% take no action when abused 75% of those who complained against abuse say they are harassed by law enforcement officials 49% can’t say if law enforcement agencies will be supportive
Only 19% are aware of existing laws & policies regarding abuse/crime
17% want to contact the police 5% in Delhi want home visits by police/lawyers to resolve issues. The figure for national level is 25.4% 76% own property, but only 7% is engaged in
any economic
activity
New Delhi: Abuse of the elderly is a relatively new problem. With increasing life-expectancy, there are more elderly people around.
A recent study by HelpAge India, “Elder Abuse and Crime in India”, claims all senior citizens they spoke to in the Capital said they had been verbally abused, while 33% confided they had been physically abused -- often beaten and tied to chairs. The ill-treatment of the elderly has become a serious enough problem to now warrant a “World Elder Abuse Awareness Day”, observed across the globe on June 15.
The study, that considered the responses of 900 senior citizens in nine cities, says family members are the chief abusers of the elderly in India and help from outsiders isn’t sought or is not forthcoming.
Ninety-two per cent of Delhi’s elderly citizens are suffering in silence because they are ashamed or afraid to share their experiences. Those who do manage to overcome the shame and fear, confide to neighbours or members of the community. Not an easy task as most abusers are often their own family members. Among the wealthy, it was the son who emerged as “chief abuser”; in the group considered for the 2011 survey, it was the daughter-in-law. However, 22.5% of the elderly in the Capital— the highest figures in the country — are financially dependent on their daughters-in-law to some degree. Delhi, however, had the highest number of senior citizens who owned property with 76% owning a piece of real estate.
“In the last 50 years, our age span has increased by 20 years. But as you advance in age, age-related disabilities appear. These aren’t new but now they’ll continue for a longer period,” says M M Sabharwal, who works with HelpAge.
If these senior citizens are neglected or abused – and all the candidates questioned were – they seem to bear it in silence. There is an acute lack of awareness of laws and faith in law-enforcement agencies. In fact, Delhi’s pensioners are more distrustful of authorities than those in any other city. They can’t be sure whether they will get support from the police or lawyers. And for good reason. The study claims 75% of the few who did take that step – registered a complaint with the police – said they were harassed by the authorities. “Whenever any of us takes an issue to the SHO, we are told there’s not enough staff,” adds J R Gupta, a senior citizen.
“That’s not an acceptable excuse at all,” said joint commissioner (CAW) Nityanandam, who was present at an event where the study was released. He said there were 11,655 senior citizens registered with the Delhi police’s Senior Citizen’s Security Cell.
OLD AND VULNERABLE
Dependent elders need help, mostly to meet medical expenses 100% say they are abused by daughter-in-law; 50% are abused by son
100% face verbal abuse 92% take no action when abused 75% of those who complained against abuse say they are harassed by law enforcement officials 49% can’t say if law enforcement agencies will be supportive
Only 19% are aware of existing laws & policies regarding abuse/crime
17% want to contact the police 5% in Delhi want home visits by police/lawyers to resolve issues. The figure for national level is 25.4% 76% own property, but only 7% is engaged in
any economic
activity
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
498a- A Wedding Gift: A Film by Shuaib Illyasi
http://www.indianexpress.com/news/suhaib-ilyasi-making-film-on-misuse-of-section-498a/802569/
After chasing fugitives with his crime-busting reality show 'India's Most Wanted', Suhaib Ilyasi is now turning director with a film on the alleged "misuse" of section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.
Titled '498A', Ilyasi says the film is inspired by various cases from real life where women have used the section wrongly resulting in much chagrin for men. "The section came into being in 1961 to empower women to fight against oppression incurred on them by men. But it has turned out to be a tool misused by the fairer sex, leading to gross violation of the basic human rights of men," said Ilyasi.
His film tells the story of a NRI family, which comes to India looking for a bride for the son but their peace is disrupted after the marriage turns into a sour affair.
Ilyasi, who was charged under the section himself after his wife committed suicide, says the story takes bits from real life incidents and is not based on a particular one. "If you search online, you will find thousands of cases where people have been victims of the misuse of the section 498A," he said.
The film stars veteran actors Aloknath and Farida Jalal. The lead couple is played by newcomer Harsh Nagar, who is making his debut with soon-to-be-released film 'Always Kabhi Kabhi', and Shrishti Gautam. "Farida Jalal has this image of a nice old lady, but for the first time she would be seen a different avatar - playing a mad woman," said Ilyasi.
After chasing fugitives with his crime-busting reality show 'India's Most Wanted', Suhaib Ilyasi is now turning director with a film on the alleged "misuse" of section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.
Titled '498A', Ilyasi says the film is inspired by various cases from real life where women have used the section wrongly resulting in much chagrin for men. "The section came into being in 1961 to empower women to fight against oppression incurred on them by men. But it has turned out to be a tool misused by the fairer sex, leading to gross violation of the basic human rights of men," said Ilyasi.
His film tells the story of a NRI family, which comes to India looking for a bride for the son but their peace is disrupted after the marriage turns into a sour affair.
Ilyasi, who was charged under the section himself after his wife committed suicide, says the story takes bits from real life incidents and is not based on a particular one. "If you search online, you will find thousands of cases where people have been victims of the misuse of the section 498A," he said.
The film stars veteran actors Aloknath and Farida Jalal. The lead couple is played by newcomer Harsh Nagar, who is making his debut with soon-to-be-released film 'Always Kabhi Kabhi', and Shrishti Gautam. "Farida Jalal has this image of a nice old lady, but for the first time she would be seen a different avatar - playing a mad woman," said Ilyasi.
498a- A Indian Wedding Gift
Suhaib Ilyasi making film on ''misuse'' of section 498A
http://news.in.msn.com/national/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5203651
New Delhi, Jun 12 (PTI) After chasing fugitives with his crime-busting reality show ''India''s Most Wanted'', Suhaib Ilyasi is now turning director with a film on the alleged "misuse" of section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.
Titled ''498A'', Ilyasi says the film is inspired by various cases from real life where women have used the section wrongly resulting in much chagrin for men.
"The section came into being in 1961 to empower women to fight against oppression incurred on them by men. But it has turned out to be a tool misused by the fairer sex, leading to gross violation of the basic human rights of men," Ilyasi told PTI.
His film tells the story of a NRI family, which comes to India looking for a bride for the son but their peace is disrupted after the marriage turns into a sour affair.
Ilyasi, who was charged under the section himself after his wife committed suicide, says the story takes bits from real life incidents and is not based on a particular one.
"If you search online, you will find thousands of cases where people have been victims of the misuse of the section 498A," he said.
The film stars veteran actors Aloknath and Farida Jalal. The lead couple is played by newcomer Harsh Nagar, who is making his debut with soon-to-be-released film ''Always Kabhi Kabhi'', and Shrishti Gautam.
"Farida Jalal has this image of a nice old lady, but for the first time she would be seen a different avatar - playing a mad woman," said Ilyasi.
Even though the film is a based on a social issue, Ilyasi says it is going to be a commercial entertainer with songs by Sonu Nigam, Shaan and Shreya Ghosal.
''498A'' is produced by Ilyasi''s company Aaliya Productions and is looking at an October release.
http://news.in.msn.com/national/article.aspx?cp-documentid=5203651
New Delhi, Jun 12 (PTI) After chasing fugitives with his crime-busting reality show ''India''s Most Wanted'', Suhaib Ilyasi is now turning director with a film on the alleged "misuse" of section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.
Titled ''498A'', Ilyasi says the film is inspired by various cases from real life where women have used the section wrongly resulting in much chagrin for men.
"The section came into being in 1961 to empower women to fight against oppression incurred on them by men. But it has turned out to be a tool misused by the fairer sex, leading to gross violation of the basic human rights of men," Ilyasi told PTI.
His film tells the story of a NRI family, which comes to India looking for a bride for the son but their peace is disrupted after the marriage turns into a sour affair.
Ilyasi, who was charged under the section himself after his wife committed suicide, says the story takes bits from real life incidents and is not based on a particular one.
"If you search online, you will find thousands of cases where people have been victims of the misuse of the section 498A," he said.
The film stars veteran actors Aloknath and Farida Jalal. The lead couple is played by newcomer Harsh Nagar, who is making his debut with soon-to-be-released film ''Always Kabhi Kabhi'', and Shrishti Gautam.
"Farida Jalal has this image of a nice old lady, but for the first time she would be seen a different avatar - playing a mad woman," said Ilyasi.
Even though the film is a based on a social issue, Ilyasi says it is going to be a commercial entertainer with songs by Sonu Nigam, Shaan and Shreya Ghosal.
''498A'' is produced by Ilyasi''s company Aaliya Productions and is looking at an October release.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Do we deserve to be a victim of 498a misuse ?????
Dear Friends,
Yes, this may be a peculiar question,at a stage when I should have been given u moral support,but no i will not.
This is our fight,its not urs ,its not mine.I am not fighting a case against my wife,I am fighting against the misuse. Our law also states that its a fight against the state where your case is running.
Every week, I come across many simillar cases as yours and mine. The story line is same only actors and their dialouges have some changes.
Does that mean we have to suffer?
Does that mean that there is no options left?
Does that means that our life is a gone case?
Does that mean that i donot have a life and i simply have to surrender?
My Answer is : A BIG NO
I am a honest human being,just caught in a bad situation.Somewhere I read a wonderfull story and would like to share that with u all ” once there was a great comedian.So people called him to a village where everyone was very sad.This was a place where everyone is unhappy.The comedian went to the stage and saw the public.It was a huge crowd.So he delivered his best joke ever.Everyone started laughed their hearts out.He then again repeated the same joke,some people again laughed,he went on repeating his same joke till nobody was laghing.Then he asked the audiance WHEN SAME JOKE CANNOT MAKE U LAUGH MORE THAN ONCE THEN WHY IS SAME SADNESS IS MAKING U CRY EVERY TIME.”
Thats what I am exactly saying.
we are not criminals but we all had done some mistakes for which we deserve a false 498a case on us.
1.we did a big mistake. by marrying to such a family(i am not saying girl intentionally) ,yes in india we get married to a family.most of us never investigated well about the in-laws before marriage.
2.we believed our wife more than our friends and relatives.we shared with them our bank details which are not even known to our parents.yes we dis this mistake
3. we loved her so much that we never noticed that she is planning a 498a,that she is planning to make us henpecked husband and we never noticed that she is behaving strangely.
4. We never verified about her background and believed her blindly.
5. we counted her family members as our own family member.
so you now what i mean by why we deserve a 498a case
but there are many more things for which we deserve a misuse of 498a
A) people like u and me bend down to their knees in front of the girl to finish the cases.do u do same if someone do rape/murder/burglery/cheating/false allegations /abuse/manhandling with some one of your family member.no u donot.u fight till u can.If some one come and take away ur house will u simply set back? no u will fight back to getit back.
but we donot have a value for selfrespect,so what if we were in jail for a week,so what the girl has abused the system,so what we were branded” dahej ke bhooke bheriyee”,we just want to settle.
its not abt 1 rupee or 10 lack rupees.
A very good friend of mine asked the other day ,buddy my wife is asking only 4 lakh,should i give her and finish the case.yes buddy go ahead plzzzzzzzz, this is due to u people bending before the wrong demands ,girls are getting dare to file cases against us.
either u do pay and accept that the allegations are true and u a coward, or just fight.i know many will agree wit noth my view,but thats truth.there is no second thought.
B) we still believe and hate the girl.no friends its not,its the law which has provision to be misused.so your fight should be against the cause not the person who is misusing it.she is just another misuser,like we should curd the causes of roberry,but should punish the wrond doers.
just feel this feeling.forgive her but donot forget her.she has done no wrong by invoking a wrong loophole of law to make easy money.stop the misuse first.
hate is also a feeling,donot have any feelings for them.
revege is the only true emotion—– as per shrimad bhagwat Gita.
so the only feeling should be revenge and that too by legally trapping her in the wrong that she has done for u and ur family.
C> there is general feeling that life has come to an end.no we are not criminals,we have a life,we have right to laugh,we have a right to enjoy.be what may.what can she get,a little maintainace,think that u are giving a begger some money to sustain her life.still u will be left with something ,u can grow and earn more.so enjoy,there are other things in this world rather than thinking abt her.make yourself better.
and at last just a line from ravindra nath tagore
“jodi tor daak sune kau na aase tahole akla cholo ray”
meaning; if by listen to u also nobody is comming with u,then go and do it yourself and fight out the battle.
donot lose hope,there are many like u. you are not only a chosen one.do u feel shame to tell your neighbours that the milkman has cheated u by mixing water in milk? so is this case.
this is nothing but a cold and coough which runs a little longer.just chill and enjoy it
” when rape is unevitable,its better to enjoy it’
always remember there is someone like u who is /was/will be in same conditions as u are today.
Yes, this may be a peculiar question,at a stage when I should have been given u moral support,but no i will not.
This is our fight,its not urs ,its not mine.I am not fighting a case against my wife,I am fighting against the misuse. Our law also states that its a fight against the state where your case is running.
Every week, I come across many simillar cases as yours and mine. The story line is same only actors and their dialouges have some changes.
Does that mean we have to suffer?
Does that mean that there is no options left?
Does that means that our life is a gone case?
Does that mean that i donot have a life and i simply have to surrender?
My Answer is : A BIG NO
I am a honest human being,just caught in a bad situation.Somewhere I read a wonderfull story and would like to share that with u all ” once there was a great comedian.So people called him to a village where everyone was very sad.This was a place where everyone is unhappy.The comedian went to the stage and saw the public.It was a huge crowd.So he delivered his best joke ever.Everyone started laughed their hearts out.He then again repeated the same joke,some people again laughed,he went on repeating his same joke till nobody was laghing.Then he asked the audiance WHEN SAME JOKE CANNOT MAKE U LAUGH MORE THAN ONCE THEN WHY IS SAME SADNESS IS MAKING U CRY EVERY TIME.”
Thats what I am exactly saying.
we are not criminals but we all had done some mistakes for which we deserve a false 498a case on us.
1.we did a big mistake. by marrying to such a family(i am not saying girl intentionally) ,yes in india we get married to a family.most of us never investigated well about the in-laws before marriage.
2.we believed our wife more than our friends and relatives.we shared with them our bank details which are not even known to our parents.yes we dis this mistake
3. we loved her so much that we never noticed that she is planning a 498a,that she is planning to make us henpecked husband and we never noticed that she is behaving strangely.
4. We never verified about her background and believed her blindly.
5. we counted her family members as our own family member.
so you now what i mean by why we deserve a 498a case
but there are many more things for which we deserve a misuse of 498a
A) people like u and me bend down to their knees in front of the girl to finish the cases.do u do same if someone do rape/murder/burglery/cheating/false allegations /abuse/manhandling with some one of your family member.no u donot.u fight till u can.If some one come and take away ur house will u simply set back? no u will fight back to getit back.
but we donot have a value for selfrespect,so what if we were in jail for a week,so what the girl has abused the system,so what we were branded” dahej ke bhooke bheriyee”,we just want to settle.
its not abt 1 rupee or 10 lack rupees.
A very good friend of mine asked the other day ,buddy my wife is asking only 4 lakh,should i give her and finish the case.yes buddy go ahead plzzzzzzzz, this is due to u people bending before the wrong demands ,girls are getting dare to file cases against us.
either u do pay and accept that the allegations are true and u a coward, or just fight.i know many will agree wit noth my view,but thats truth.there is no second thought.
B) we still believe and hate the girl.no friends its not,its the law which has provision to be misused.so your fight should be against the cause not the person who is misusing it.she is just another misuser,like we should curd the causes of roberry,but should punish the wrond doers.
just feel this feeling.forgive her but donot forget her.she has done no wrong by invoking a wrong loophole of law to make easy money.stop the misuse first.
hate is also a feeling,donot have any feelings for them.
revege is the only true emotion—– as per shrimad bhagwat Gita.
so the only feeling should be revenge and that too by legally trapping her in the wrong that she has done for u and ur family.
C> there is general feeling that life has come to an end.no we are not criminals,we have a life,we have right to laugh,we have a right to enjoy.be what may.what can she get,a little maintainace,think that u are giving a begger some money to sustain her life.still u will be left with something ,u can grow and earn more.so enjoy,there are other things in this world rather than thinking abt her.make yourself better.
and at last just a line from ravindra nath tagore
“jodi tor daak sune kau na aase tahole akla cholo ray”
meaning; if by listen to u also nobody is comming with u,then go and do it yourself and fight out the battle.
donot lose hope,there are many like u. you are not only a chosen one.do u feel shame to tell your neighbours that the milkman has cheated u by mixing water in milk? so is this case.
this is nothing but a cold and coough which runs a little longer.just chill and enjoy it
” when rape is unevitable,its better to enjoy it’
always remember there is someone like u who is /was/will be in same conditions as u are today.
Monday, May 9, 2011
7th May - Dharna in Bengaluru against Unjustified Maintenance/Alimony
7th May - Dharna in Bengaluru against Unjustified Maintenance/Alimony
We have organized dharna with theme being protest against "Intimate Terrorism and Family Terrorism" on 7th May, Sat from 10 am to 1:30 pm in front of Town Hall, near Corporation Circle in Bangalore.
All are welcome to join. Be there with family, friends, relatives, neighbours. I got to know one of my neighbors got screwed recently and his wife left him after doing usual tamasha and packing up things in his absence and went to her mother's house. Get in touch with all people you know and you will find at least 2 people who are going through something similar but not aware of SIF. Of course if you don't share with people about your life then people won't be aware even of YOUR case.
It is known experience in Bangalore that people who protest and do activism, keep winning their cases. They actually end up taking money from other side during settlement (on paper it looks as if they paid though but they have stuff from other side already).
Those who are too ashamed to protest, or want to hide, or want to stand far away from others even get their maintenance increased from 15K to 30K.
We have organized dharna with theme being protest against "Intimate Terrorism and Family Terrorism" on 7th May, Sat from 10 am to 1:30 pm in front of Town Hall, near Corporation Circle in Bangalore.
All are welcome to join. Be there with family, friends, relatives, neighbours. I got to know one of my neighbors got screwed recently and his wife left him after doing usual tamasha and packing up things in his absence and went to her mother's house. Get in touch with all people you know and you will find at least 2 people who are going through something similar but not aware of SIF. Of course if you don't share with people about your life then people won't be aware even of YOUR case.
It is known experience in Bangalore that people who protest and do activism, keep winning their cases. They actually end up taking money from other side during settlement (on paper it looks as if they paid though but they have stuff from other side already).
Those who are too ashamed to protest, or want to hide, or want to stand far away from others even get their maintenance increased from 15K to 30K.
Court lets agent utter 'talaq' on man's behalf
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Court-lets-agent-utter-talaq-on-mans-behalf/articleshow/8200761.cms
NEW DELHI: In a twist to the triple talaq rule, a city court has upheld the divorce sought by a man who had appointed an agent to pronounce 'divorce' on his behalf since he himself could not utter the words in Arabic.
The court said Shia Muslim personal law allows a man to obtain talaq under these circumstance.
Upholding the legality of the divorce given by one Sabir Hussain, additional district judge Reetesh Singh said the "respondent (Hussain) has duly proved that he had obtained divorce from the appellant as prescribed under Shia Muslim law".
Sabir's wife Mumtaz had contended that to secure divorce under the Shia Muslim law, 'talaq' should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband himself. The court dismissed her plea on the ground that Sabir could not speak Arabic.
Sabir was married to Mumtaz in 1992. The couple lived in Brahmpuri, northeast Delhi, and have two sons and a daughter. In 2005, Sabir divorced Mumtaz alleging that she had treated him cruelly and kept calling the police while making bogus allegations against him and his family. A certificate of divorce was issued by Mansabia Arabic College, Meerut, Uttar Pradesh. Mumtaz moved the trial court contending that since no notice was served intimating her of the divorce, it was not valid under the Muslim Shia law. The trial court, however, dismissed her plea.
Mumtaz then filed an appeal before the sessions court saying the requirement for a valid divorce under the Shia Muslim Law was that it should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband. In his evidence, Sabir stated that he could read Arabic but was not able to speak the language and so he had appointed an agent, who held a 'fazil' degree, to pronounce divorce on his behalf.
He also produced the agent as a witness to prove his case. Two independent witnesses also identified their signatures on the divorce certificate before the court.
After going through the records and contentions of both parties, the court said that as Sabir could not speak Arabic, he had engaged the services of an agent well-versed in Arabic to pronounce 'talaq' on his behalf, as per the provisions of the Shia law.
NEW DELHI: In a twist to the triple talaq rule, a city court has upheld the divorce sought by a man who had appointed an agent to pronounce 'divorce' on his behalf since he himself could not utter the words in Arabic.
The court said Shia Muslim personal law allows a man to obtain talaq under these circumstance.
Upholding the legality of the divorce given by one Sabir Hussain, additional district judge Reetesh Singh said the "respondent (Hussain) has duly proved that he had obtained divorce from the appellant as prescribed under Shia Muslim law".
Sabir's wife Mumtaz had contended that to secure divorce under the Shia Muslim law, 'talaq' should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband himself. The court dismissed her plea on the ground that Sabir could not speak Arabic.
Sabir was married to Mumtaz in 1992. The couple lived in Brahmpuri, northeast Delhi, and have two sons and a daughter. In 2005, Sabir divorced Mumtaz alleging that she had treated him cruelly and kept calling the police while making bogus allegations against him and his family. A certificate of divorce was issued by Mansabia Arabic College, Meerut, Uttar Pradesh. Mumtaz moved the trial court contending that since no notice was served intimating her of the divorce, it was not valid under the Muslim Shia law. The trial court, however, dismissed her plea.
Mumtaz then filed an appeal before the sessions court saying the requirement for a valid divorce under the Shia Muslim Law was that it should be pronounced only in Arabic by the husband. In his evidence, Sabir stated that he could read Arabic but was not able to speak the language and so he had appointed an agent, who held a 'fazil' degree, to pronounce divorce on his behalf.
He also produced the agent as a witness to prove his case. Two independent witnesses also identified their signatures on the divorce certificate before the court.
After going through the records and contentions of both parties, the court said that as Sabir could not speak Arabic, he had engaged the services of an agent well-versed in Arabic to pronounce 'talaq' on his behalf, as per the provisions of the Shia law.
Man calls wife unfaithful, faces jail or Rs 1 L fine
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-05-08/mumbai/29522589_1_mental-cruelty-illicit-relations-conduct
MUMBAI: Levelling baseless allegations of adultery against one's wife amounted to mental cruelty, said the Bombay high court while pronouncing a city resident guilty of the charge.
Justice A R Joshi offered the husband, Nilesh Chauhan, two options: pay Rs 1 lakh as compensation or go to jail.
"Going through the evidence presented by the prosecution witnesses and the allegations made against (the wife), it is definitely a case of mental cruelty on (her)," said the judge. "Needless to say, the conduct of the applicant comes within the purview of Section 498A of Indian Penal Code, so far as mental cruelty is concerned."
MUMBAI: Levelling baseless allegations of adultery against one's wife amounted to mental cruelty, said the Bombay high court while pronouncing a city resident guilty of the charge.
Justice A R Joshi offered the husband, Nilesh Chauhan, two options: pay Rs 1 lakh as compensation or go to jail.
"Going through the evidence presented by the prosecution witnesses and the allegations made against (the wife), it is definitely a case of mental cruelty on (her)," said the judge. "Needless to say, the conduct of the applicant comes within the purview of Section 498A of Indian Penal Code, so far as mental cruelty is concerned."
Minor boy booked under Dowry Act
To,
The Editor,
Deccan Herald.
Bangalore- 1
Dear sir,
I refer to this news article titled,"Minor boy booked under Dowry Act "http://www.deccanherald.com/content/159943/minor-boy-booked-dowry-act.html
The law is heavily in favour of women in the name and garb of gender equality and this is the result of it. I know plenty of cases of severe misuse of the law by wives and women in which the man is living a life of hell. Are men mongrels without any rights? Is gender equality about men being treated as second-class citizens? Today, the Kerala govt. has issued guidelines in which it proudly proclaims that divorce laws are pro-women more than in any other country. It shows how feminist out country has become that we think that anything in favour of women is equality. We fail to understand what gender equality is all about. LAWS HAVE TO BE EQUAL FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AND NOT FAVOUR WOMEN. The govt. should amend all laws to make them gender-neutral and not pro-women. The women are cheating the men in the name of gender equality.
Regards,
The Editor,
Deccan Herald.
Bangalore- 1
Dear sir,
I refer to this news article titled,"Minor boy booked under Dowry Act "http://www.deccanherald.com/content/159943/minor-boy-booked-dowry-act.html
The law is heavily in favour of women in the name and garb of gender equality and this is the result of it. I know plenty of cases of severe misuse of the law by wives and women in which the man is living a life of hell. Are men mongrels without any rights? Is gender equality about men being treated as second-class citizens? Today, the Kerala govt. has issued guidelines in which it proudly proclaims that divorce laws are pro-women more than in any other country. It shows how feminist out country has become that we think that anything in favour of women is equality. We fail to understand what gender equality is all about. LAWS HAVE TO BE EQUAL FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AND NOT FAVOUR WOMEN. The govt. should amend all laws to make them gender-neutral and not pro-women. The women are cheating the men in the name of gender equality.
Regards,
Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages
Dear Sir,
I refer to this news article titled, "Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages"http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Thiruvananthapuram/article2001468.ece
I fail to understand why the Kerala police have issued guidelines only for women as though fraud is committed by only men. There are plenty of women who also commit fraud and men end up in the midst of nowhere. On top of it, the laws being in favour of women [all in the name and garb of gender equality] makes it hell for these victimised men. Its time that men fight for their rights. Its time that the laws are made gender-neutral and NOT pro-women because that is anathema to equality. Equality means equality and not being pro-men or pro-women.
Thanks for understanding Indian men's issues.
Regards,
I refer to this news article titled, "Police guidelines on 'pravasi' marriages"http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Thiruvananthapuram/article2001468.ece
I fail to understand why the Kerala police have issued guidelines only for women as though fraud is committed by only men. There are plenty of women who also commit fraud and men end up in the midst of nowhere. On top of it, the laws being in favour of women [all in the name and garb of gender equality] makes it hell for these victimised men. Its time that men fight for their rights. Its time that the laws are made gender-neutral and NOT pro-women because that is anathema to equality. Equality means equality and not being pro-men or pro-women.
Thanks for understanding Indian men's issues.
Regards,
Friday, January 21, 2011
Thursday, January 20, 2011
"Protection of Women against Sexual Harassment at Workplace"
Must do activity for every men in India , if they are calling their self one.. & want themself safe at their workplace
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
2009 suicide figures in India
1.Unmarried boys17738.
2.Unmarried girls 10063.
3.Husbands 58192
4.Wives 31300
5.Widower 2848
6.Widowed 2674
7.Divorcee(male) 635
8.Divorcee(female613
9.Separate(male)2058
10.Separated(female)1030
Total(male) 81471
Total (female)45680
GRAND TOTAL 127151
Male:Female
2007= 182:100
2008= 181:100
2009= 178:100
1. Rise of total male suicide in 2008(80544) 0ver 2007(79295)=1.5751%
Rise of total male suicide in 2009(81471) over 2008(80544)=1.0115%
2. Rise of female suicide in2008(44473) over 2007(43342)=2.6094%
Rise of female suicide in 2009(45680) over 2008(44473)=1.0273%
3. Rise of husband suicide in 2008(57639) over 2007(57593)=0.0799%.
Rise of husband suicide in 2009(58192) over 2008(57639)=1.0095%
4. Rise of wife suicide in 2008(30224) over 2007(30064)=0.5322%
Rise of wife suicide in 2009(31300) over 2008(30224)=1.0356%
2.Unmarried girls 10063.
3.Husbands 58192
4.Wives 31300
5.Widower 2848
6.Widowed 2674
7.Divorcee(male) 635
8.Divorcee(female613
9.Separate(male)2058
10.Separated(female)1030
Total(male) 81471
Total (female)45680
GRAND TOTAL 127151
Male:Female
2007= 182:100
2008= 181:100
2009= 178:100
1. Rise of total male suicide in 2008(80544) 0ver 2007(79295)=1.5751%
Rise of total male suicide in 2009(81471) over 2008(80544)=1.0115%
2. Rise of female suicide in2008(44473) over 2007(43342)=2.6094%
Rise of female suicide in 2009(45680) over 2008(44473)=1.0273%
3. Rise of husband suicide in 2008(57639) over 2007(57593)=0.0799%.
Rise of husband suicide in 2009(58192) over 2008(57639)=1.0095%
4. Rise of wife suicide in 2008(30224) over 2007(30064)=0.5322%
Rise of wife suicide in 2009(31300) over 2008(30224)=1.0356%
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