Do we deserve to be a victim of 498a misuse ?????

Dear Friends,

Yes, this may be a peculiar question,at a stage when I should have been given u moral support,but no i will not.

This is our fight,its not urs ,its not mine.I am not fighting a case against my wife,I am fighting against the misuse. Our law also states that its a fight against the state where your case is running.

Every week, I come across many simillar cases as yours and mine. The story line is same only actors and their dialouges have some changes.

Does that mean we have to suffer?
Does that mean that there is no options left?
Does that means that our life is a gone case?
Does that mean that i donot have a life and i simply have to surrender?

My Answer is : A BIG NO

I am a honest human being,just caught in a bad situation.Somewhere I read a wonderfull story and would like to share that with u all ” once there was a great comedian.So people called him to a village where everyone was very sad.This was a place where everyone is unhappy.The comedian went to the stage and saw the public.It was a huge crowd.So he delivered his best joke ever.Everyone started laughed their hearts out.He then again repeated the same joke,some people again laughed,he went on repeating his same joke till nobody was laghing.Then he asked the audiance WHEN SAME JOKE CANNOT MAKE U LAUGH MORE THAN ONCE THEN WHY IS SAME SADNESS IS MAKING U CRY EVERY TIME.”

Thats what I am exactly saying.
we are not criminals but we all had done some mistakes for which we deserve a false 498a case on us.

1.we did a big mistake. by marrying to such a family(i am not saying girl intentionally) ,yes in india we get married to a family.most of us never investigated well about the in-laws before marriage.

2.we believed our wife more than our friends and relatives.we shared with them our bank details which are not even known to our parents.yes we dis this mistake

3. we loved her so much that we never noticed that she is planning a 498a,that she is planning to make us henpecked husband and we never noticed that she is behaving strangely.

4. We never verified about her background and believed her blindly.

5. we counted her family members as our own family member.

so you now what i mean by why we deserve a 498a case

but there are many more things for which we deserve a misuse of 498a

A) people like u and me bend down to their knees in front of the girl to finish the cases.do u do same if someone do rape/murder/burglery/cheating/false allegations /abuse/manhandling with some one of your family member.no u donot.u fight till u can.If some one come and take away ur house will u simply set back? no u will fight back to getit back.
but we donot have a value for selfrespect,so what if we were in jail for a week,so what the girl has abused the system,so what we were branded” dahej ke bhooke bheriyee”,we just want to settle.
its not abt 1 rupee or 10 lack rupees.

A very good friend of mine asked the other day ,buddy my wife is asking only 4 lakh,should i give her and finish the case.yes buddy go ahead plzzzzzzzz, this is due to u people bending before the wrong demands ,girls are getting dare to file cases against us.

either u do pay and accept that the allegations are true and u a coward, or just fight.i know many will agree wit noth my view,but thats truth.there is no second thought.

B) we still believe and hate the girl.no friends its not,its the law which has provision to be misused.so your fight should be against the cause not the person who is misusing it.she is just another misuser,like we should curd the causes of roberry,but should punish the wrond doers.
just feel this feeling.forgive her but donot forget her.she has done no wrong by invoking a wrong loophole of law to make easy money.stop the misuse first.

hate is also a feeling,donot have any feelings for them.
revege is the only true emotion—– as per shrimad bhagwat Gita.
so the only feeling should be revenge and that too by legally trapping her in the wrong that she has done for u and ur family.

C> there is general feeling that life has come to an end.no we are not criminals,we have a life,we have right to laugh,we have a right to enjoy.be what may.what can she get,a little maintainace,think that u are giving a begger some money to sustain her life.still u will be left with something ,u can grow and earn more.so enjoy,there are other things in this world rather than thinking abt her.make yourself better.

and at last just a line from ravindra nath tagore
“jodi tor daak sune kau na aase tahole akla cholo ray”
meaning; if by listen to u also nobody is comming with u,then go and do it yourself and fight out the battle.
donot lose hope,there are many like u. you are not only a chosen one.do u feel shame to tell your neighbours that the milkman has cheated u by mixing water in milk? so is this case.
this is nothing but a cold and coough which runs a little longer.just chill and enjoy it
” when rape is unevitable,its better to enjoy it’

always remember there is someone like u who is /was/will be in same conditions as u are today.